People Quotes by Martha Beck

Remember, intimacy increases with honesty. Share less to keep people away and more to draw them closer.

— Martha Beck

My anguish came from my hypothesis that other people's hypothetical hypotheses about me mattered. Ridiculous!

— Martha Beck

People who get what they want tend to be the ones who make the effort to know what they want.

— Martha Beck

Imagine what you'd do if it absolutely didn't matter what people thought of you. Got it? Good. Never go back.

— Martha Beck

I fell in love with Africa and began helping people fix things there.

— Martha Beck

When you meet people, show real appreciation, then genuine curiosity.

— Martha Beck

I always felt that it was my job to try to help other people get it and deal with it.

— Martha Beck

People are so afraid of authority figures and doctors are authority figures.

— Martha Beck

Conflict in close relationships is not only inevitable, it's essential. Intimacy connects people who are inevitably different.

— Martha Beck

If you’re doing something you love with people you love in a place you love, you are going to create something of…

— Martha Beck

The thing I love most about my job is watching people age backward, becoming more lively and energetic as they free themselves…

— Martha Beck

I've never understood why some people hesitate before diving into unfamiliar tasks or activities. I couldn't imagine wanting more instructions about anything.

— Martha Beck

I suggest Substituting Inedible Nurturance, or SIN. Don't replace overeating with virtuous work or exercise; instead, make a list of things you…

— Martha Beck

Many people think passion is a fuzzy feeling that makes taking action effortless. In fact, it's the gritty courage and tenacity to…

— Martha Beck

You have the freedom to live and let live, to love and let love. Granting yourself that freedom is one of the…

— Martha Beck

Connecting with the people who are meant to be part of your own North Star is much more important than any aspect…

— Martha Beck

Much protective self-criticism stems from growing up around people who wouldn't or couldn't love you, and it's likely they still can't or…

— Martha Beck

All religious leaders and spiritual teachers emphasize finding a place within us that is true. People who obsessively follow these leaders instead…

— Martha Beck

Ten years ago, I still feared loss enough to abandon myself in order to keep things stable. I'd smile when I was…

— Martha Beck

Most people think that once they've found their purpose and the power to practice it, they'll finally be at peace. Actually, though,…

— Martha Beck

There are several ways to mess up your life by fighting to make your calendar age match your felt age. I live…

— Martha Beck

We are a time-starved people, obsessed with fitting huge achievements into our few years. In the process, we often fill our buckets…

— Martha Beck

Everything I've ever taught in terms of self-help boils down to this - I cannot believe people keep paying me to say…

— Martha Beck

Our thoughts about an event can have a dramatic effect on how we go through the event itself. When our expectations are…

— Martha Beck

The effect of emotional venting is to sustain an unsatisfactory status quo. Most people think the opposite, that complaining is part of…

— Martha Beck

I have discovered that many of the things I thought were priceless are as cheap as costume jewelry, and much of what…

— Martha Beck

People don’t cry when they lose their hope. They cry when they get it back.

— Martha Beck

I want you to be supervised, all day every day, by people who forgive your errors and believe in your destiny.

— Martha Beck

The way that other people judge me is none of my business.

— Martha Beck

Absolutely lonely people have few personal interactions of any kind.

— Martha Beck

Most unhappy people need to learn just one lesson: how to see themselves through the lens of genuine compassion, and treat themselves…

— Martha Beck

If you find yourself getting nervous stop and relax for three full breaths. Then take one small step, then another. That is…

— Martha Beck

Only since the Industrial Revolution have most people worked in places away from their homes or been left to raise small children…

— Martha Beck

The most common reason we stumble into the delusion of powerlessness is that we're afraid of what other people would do or…

— Martha Beck

One reason most people never stop thinking is that mental frenzy keeps us from having to see the upsetting aspects of our…

— Martha Beck

Fact: From quitting smoking to skiing, we succeed to the degree we try, fail, and learn. Studies show that people who worry…

— Martha Beck

Most people go through their whole lives," John went on, "and never have one miracle happen to them. You've had dozens and…

— Martha Beck

To live a life that is wrong for you is a form of dying. There are people who have lives that look…

— Martha Beck

If you ask people, as I often do, how they make decisions, 'lucky' people will talk about tuning in to information and…

— Martha Beck