“Devote yourself to your partner's sense of safety and security and not simply to your idea about what that should be. What may make you feel safe and secure may not be what your partner requires from you. Your job… — Stan Tatkin Copy Share Image
“Fears and expectations that date back to earlier experiences of dependency, but that didn't arise during courtship or dating, are activated as commitment to… — Stan Tatkin Copy Share
“Couples in distress too often turn to solutions that can be summed up by "You do your thing and I'll do my thing" or… — Stan Tatkin Copy Share
“When we enter into a relationship, we want to matter to our partner, to be visible and important…We want to know our efforts are… — Stan Tatkin Copy Share
“They may lack confidence in their ability to leave a romantic relationship when and if necessary. Fear of abandonment eclipses all other matters, including… — Stan Tatkin Copy Share
“Devote yourself to your partner's sense of safety and security and not simply to your idea about what that should be. What may make… — Stan Tatkin Copy Share
“The couple bubble is an agreement to put the relationship before anything and everything else. It means putting your partner's well-being, self-esteem and distress… — Stan Tatkin Copy Share
