“Because if you are the mess, you can clean it. Improvement doesn't depend on others.” — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
“So if we are going to find lasting solutions to difficult conflicts or external wars we find ourselves in, we first need to find… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share
“Most wars between individuals are of the 'cold' rather than the 'hot' variety---lingering resentment, for example, grudges long held, resources clutched rather than shared,… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share
“As painful as it is to receive contempt from another, it is more debilitating by far to be filled with contempt for another.” — Arbinger Institute Copy Share
“...no conflict can be solved so long as all parties are convinced they are right. Solution is possible only when at least one party… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share
“But like many who are lonely, I was more preoccupied with others than were those who lived to socialize...Everyone I hated was always with… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share
“always remember that it is progress, not perfection, you should be looking for.” — Arbinger Institute Copy Share
“My disability was my justification! It was my excuse for failing to engage with the world.” — Arbinger Institute Copy Share
“...when I betray myself, others' faults become immediately inflated in my heart and mind. I begin to 'horribilize' others. That is, I begin to… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share
“Because if you are the mess, you can clean it. Improvement doesn't depend on others.” — Arbinger Institute Copy Share
“... if I'm sure I'm right, there is little hope of seeing where I am failing. So I keep trying the same old things-” — Arbinger Institute Copy Share
“If we have deep problems, it's because we are failing at the deepest part of the solution. And when we fail at this deepest… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share
“If you see people of a particular race or culture as objects, your view of them is racist, whatever your color or lack of… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share
“There is a question I have learned to ask myself when I am feeling bothered about others: am I holding myself to the same… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share
