“What was the payoff? It obviously kept me in my cozy zone of being in control, being a good mother, with a good daughter. Most of all, I realize, is that it allowed me to maintain the lie that she… — Claire Fontaine Copy Share Image
“We tell our daughters we don’t trust them in a thousand ways. We don’t consciously mean to, but we steal their confidence in their… — Claire Fontaine Copy Share Image
“Travel empties out everything you’ve into the box called your life, all the things you accumulate to tell you who you are” — Claire Fontaine Copy Share Image
“Sometimes, we have to give birth to our children twice…Once your child becomes the "garbage" other parents are afraid of, you never look at… — Claire Fontaine Copy Share Image
“I could see where I’d mistaken drama and conflict for life, which meant years of living reactively instead of generatively, a life I let… — Claire Fontaine Copy Share Image
“A woman’s relationship with herself is mirrored everywhere in her life, but no place more than with her daughter.” — Claire Fontaine Copy Share Image
“Once your baby arrives, the world is no more the same than you are. Because from our very bodies we add to the collective… — Claire Fontaine Copy Share Image
“I know that for every mother, there is always the possibility of three in your relationship with your daughter. You, your daughter the way she is, and your daughter the way you want her to be. I learned the hard way ten years ago that that kind of control is an illusion and a barrier.” — Claire Fontaine Copy Share
“My relationship with God has evolved as well. I no longer rail or beg or sass back. I was standing on a bluff over the ocean the other day and suddenly laughed out loud as I realized what an illusion that was, what an impossibility. That would assume a relationship between a “me” and “Other,” a separation. There is no… — Claire Fontaine Copy Share
“- Child is abused, perpetrator threatens to hurt mother. Child feels protective of mother. - Struggle to escape perp reinforces feelings of mutual protection. It's Mom and I against the world. - Something necessary at the time later creates "enmeshment." Child doesn't see her actions as separate from mother. Even during normal adolescent individuation. But-- - Normal individuation doesn't happen… — Claire Fontaine Copy Share
“These are the kinds of regrets all women have, mistakes and missteps, paths not chosen, opportunities gone. Youth gone. Forever. And until I honestly… — Claire Fontaine Copy Share Image
“[Samantha Dunn] wrote that when God wants your attention, first He throws feathers. After that, He starts throwing bricks.” — Claire Fontaine Copy Share Image
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