“We have learned through research on trauma survivors that early events that stimulate our fight-or-flight response have long-lasting effects. It usually directs us to create a negative belief about ourselves, which in turn leads to the counterbalancing behaviors that try… — Bandy X Lee Copy Share Image
“In Donald Trump, we have a frightening Venn diagram consisting of three circles: the first is extreme present hedonism; the second, narcissism; and the third, bullying behavior. These three circles overlap in the middle to create an impulsive, immature, incompetent person who, when in the position of ultimate power, easily slides into the role of tyrant, complete with family members… — Bandy X Lee Copy Share
“Even those with less-severe Other-blaming traits end up damaging relationships because they lack an ability to attend or respond to their partner’s emotions with kindness and caring. The resulting lack of emotional connection is a major reason relationships fail. In couples’ therapy, it is difficult to get an Other-blamer to pay attention to his effect on his partner. Even if… — Bandy X Lee Copy Share
“Other-blamers instinctively seek out those willing to be controlled, manipulated, or intimidated. This sets up relationships with submissive people who will not challenge, correct,… — Bandy X Lee Copy Share Image
“People with NPD have a strong need, in every area of their life, to be treated as if they’re special. To those with NPD, other people are simply mirrors, useful only insofar as they reflect back the special view of themselves they so desperately long to see. If that means making others look bad by comparison—say, by ruining their reputation… — Bandy X Lee Copy Share
“And empathy? Even Trump’s former mentor, the notorious Roy Cohn, lawyer for gangsters and Joseph McCarthy, said that when it came to his feelings… — Bandy X Lee Copy Share Image
“one way in which severe sociopaths do have a certain, frightening type of empathy. It is the empathy of the predator. A tiger stalking his prey must have an ability to sense the prey’s fear, or at least to be aware of the small signs of that fear (Malancharuvil 2012). The tiger is “empathic” with its prey, but not sympathetic… — Bandy X Lee Copy Share
“to have poor shame tolerance. They learned in childhood to manage feelings of inadequacy by adopting unhealthy coping mechanisms to forestall or avoid shaming… — Bandy X Lee Copy Share Image
“Other-blamers and abusers lie so frequently that their partners often do not know what to believe. How can a relationship of any kind withstand… — Bandy X Lee Copy Share Image
“In his constant attempts to redefine the truth against the wrongdoings he has enacted, Donald Trump behaves like an aggressive perpetrator who fundamentally has… — Bandy X Lee Copy Share Image
“We have learned through research on trauma survivors that early events that stimulate our fight-or-flight response have long-lasting effects. It usually directs us to… — Bandy X Lee Copy Share Image
“In that regard, one final clarification is in order. Trump is now the most powerful head of state in the world, and one of… — Bandy X Lee Copy Share Image
“The human brain can protect us from seeing and feeling what it believes may be too uncomfortable for us to tolerate. It can lead… — Bandy X Lee Copy Share Image
