“if the partners don’t get workload distribution issues under control, the anger and resentment that builds up can end the marriage.” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“It is EXTREMELY STRESSFUL to feel like there is no companionship because I can’t rely on my husband to do what he said he… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“because people with ADHD don’t receive and process information in a hierarchical way, Maria’s suffering enters his mind at about the same level as… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“I hear so many excuses that I’ve pretty much become numb to his endless tales of woes. Communication is a major problem in our… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“He learns that getting things done doesn’t get him much credit, which demotivates him.” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“a great deal of damage is caused by lack of knowledge about, and misinterpretation of, ADHD symptoms. Couples who learn about the specific patterns… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“Applaud all forward progress. Research shows that encouragement, support, and recognition of success are far more effective than offering “help” when your goal is… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“You may feel desperately unhappy and lonely, and your partner isn’t even aware of it—even if you’ve tried to talk about it. You fight… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“Most often, a non-ADHD spouse can make this transition easily, but the ADHD spouse ends up lost; and because the non-ADHD spouse assumes that… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“frustration with a lack of progress by your ADHD spouse more often leads to anger than empathy.” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“Parenting” an ADHD spouse is always destructive to your relationship because it demotivates and generates frustration and anger.” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“for the non-ADHD spouse, the ADHD partner’s lack of participation in household chores becomes symbolic of all of the things that person doesn’t” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“Dr. John Ratey, an expert on how the brain functions, suggests that ADHD is the result of dysregulation of the reward system (primarily dopamine)… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“insecurity had nothing to do with reality. He loved me deeply. He just didn’t realize that he wasn’t paying attention because he was distracted… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“Medication is the most efficient way to jump-start treatment, but it does not effectively treat ADHD in marriages without the addition of behavioral changes.… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
