I actually recommend as little actual counting as possible in a life partnership. But, when there's a sense of injustice brewing between you, some counting is inevitable, and so my advice is to count using as broad a scope as… — Carolyn Hax Copy Share
Being highly invested and preoccupied by an emotionally consuming mission tends to steal resources from other aspects of your emotional life. — Carolyn Hax Copy Share Image
I actually recommend as little actual counting as possible in a life partnership. But, when there's a sense of injustice brewing between you, some counting is inevitable, and so my advice is to count using as broad a scope as possible. It's not just hours worked or chores done, either, and it's not even just about the household - it's… — Carolyn Hax Copy Share
There has been, for some reason (or more likely an unfortunate accumulation of reasons) a trend over the past several decades for parents to do the work of parenting in the isolation of their own homes - and not only that, this trend has overlapped with the other trend of much deeper parent involvement in raising kids. That you also… — Carolyn Hax Copy Share
It takes awareness that it's not only not a bad thing to let others do things their own way, it is in fact an… — Carolyn Hax Copy Share Image
The sudden death of a partner while expecting a child is so universally understood as awful that I don't think anyone with any other… — Carolyn Hax Copy Share Image
I do crosswords when I have time to kill somewhere, and am 100 percent successful on filling in the spots I get stuck on… — Carolyn Hax Copy Share Image
Unfortunately, I think the expectation is that birthday girls don't pay. — Carolyn Hax Copy Share Image
All of us assign different values to things, and not all of those values are going to line up with others'. — Carolyn Hax Copy Share Image
Don't freight your answers with any notions of what you're "supposed" to do, and just see where your feelings point you. It can feel… — Carolyn Hax Copy Share Image
There's nothing wrong with being happy somewhere, even if it's the little pond you grew up in, as long as you are in fact… — Carolyn Hax Copy Share Image
