“People with BPD spend a great deal of their emotional energy worrying about past pain or potential future problems. “If I do that, this will happen.” Dwelling on the past or the future prevents you from focusing on the present.” — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share Image
“Gwen, a woman with BPD, talks about her inability to decipher the world around her. “On the day I was born, all the newborn… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share
“People with BPD spend a great deal of their emotional energy worrying about past pain or potential future problems. “If I do that, this… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share
“they may pontificate that the suicide attempt was merely a ploy to gain attention or to manipulate others. No matter what may have motivated… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share
“It is not necessary to get into a fight with someone because you feel angry; aggressive behavior does not have to be a knee-jerk… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share
“This painful mental illness is not fair, but saying it is not fair does not change anything. Thinking that you should not have to… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share
“If you want to pull someone out of a deep hole, do you jump in after her? Now that you are in the hole… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share
“Willingness is giving up trying to control behaviors or outcomes. By giving up control you can do what is needed in any situation. Willingness… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share
“It is very difficult to go through life when your core belief about yourself is that you are incompetent and do not count. When… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share
“Radical acceptance requires being open to fully experiencing your own life, as it is, without wishing it were not so and without pretending it… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share
“People with BPD tend to judge themselves and others in extreme ways. They will often use excessively positive terms, idealizing or glorifying, or excessively… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share
“Western culture does not encourage validating someone’s emotional responses, as emotional awareness of daily interactions is counterintuitive to how we normally react. In today’s… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share
“Think of your loved one as living in a different culture. Get to know his culture, learn to speak his language. Because you are… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share
“People with BPD judge themselves harshly all the time and find judgments lurking around the corner of every raised eyebrow, sneeze, yawn, or shoulder… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share
“Tips for Being Mindful • Focus on what works • Keep an eye on your goals and values • Give up opinions and judgments… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share
“the ability to cope effectively with daily problems and responses does not depend on willpower. Solving problems and tolerating distress requires skill power,” — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share
