He who is himself crossed in love is able from time to…
“He who is himself crossed in love is able from time to time to master his passion, for he is not the creature but the creator of his own misery; and if a lover is unable to control his passion, he at least knows that he is himself to blame for his sufferings. But he who is loved without reciprocating that love is lost beyond redemption, for it is not in his power to set a limit to that other's passion, to keep it within bounds, and the strongest will is reduced to impotence in the face of another's desire.”
About This Quote
This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.
Passion must be self‑controlled; when we love without reciprocity we become powerless to others’ desires, leading to personal misery.
In simple terms: Control love, avoid being victim of unreciprocated love.
Key Takeaway
Cultivate self‑mastery in relationships.
Themes
love
power
self‑control
misery
reciprocity
Mood
reflective
melancholic
thoughtful
Type
advice
philosophical
literary
When to use this quote
- romantic relationships
- friendships
- workplace dynamics
- personal growth
- therapy
Key Concepts
psychology
philosophy
human nature
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you set healthy boundaries with unreciprocated love?
- What practices help maintain inner authority over passion?
A Different Perspective
Self‑control is difficult when emotions run high; external factors can limit influence.