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“Moving parts in rubbing contact require lubrication to avoid excessive wear. Honorifics and formal politeness provide lubrication where people rub together. Often the very young, the untravelled, the naive, the sophisticated deplore these formalities as 'empty,' 'meaningless,' or 'dishonest,' and scorn to use them. No matter how 'pure' their motives, they thereby throw sand into machinery that does not work too well at best.”
About This Quote
This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.
Politeness acts like lubrication in social interactions, reducing friction; without it, cooperation breaks down.
In simple terms: Politeness eases social friction.
Practice respectful courtesy.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- workplace meetings
- customer service
- team projects
- diplomacy
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- When does politeness become counterproductive?
- How can we balance authenticity with courtesy?
Excessive formality can feel insincere.