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The painful thing is that when we buy into disapproval, we…

“The painful thing is that when we buy into disapproval, we are practicing disapproval. When we buy into harshness, we are practicing harshness. The more we do it, the stronger these qualities become. How sad it is that we become so expert at causing harm to ourselves and others. The trick then is…” quote by Pema Chodron
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“The painful thing is that when we buy into disapproval, we are practicing disapproval. When we buy into harshness, we are practicing harshness. The more we do it, the stronger these qualities become. How sad it is that we become so expert at causing harm to ourselves and others. The trick then is to practice gentleness and letting go. We can learn to meet whatever arises with curiosity and not make it such a big deal.”

Pema Chodron

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

The quote warns that internalizing negativity strengthens it, urging gentleness and curiosity to counteract self‑harm.

In simple terms: Negativity grows when embraced; practice gentleness.

Key Takeaway

Replace harshness with compassionate curiosity.

Themes

mindfulness self‑compassion psychology

Mood

calming reflective

Type

spiritual psychological

When to use this quote

  • personal growth
  • conflict resolution
  • mental health

Key Concepts

negative cycles gentleness

Questions to Reflect On

  • What triggers your harsh self‑talk?
  • How can you foster curiosity?
A Different Perspective

Changing habits requires sustained effort.

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