Don't flatter yourself that friendship authorizes you to…
““Don't flatter yourself that friendship authorizes you to say disagreeable things to your intimates. The nearer you come into relation with a person, the more necessary do tact and courtesy become. Except in cases of necessity, which are rare, leave your friend to learn unpleasant things from his enemies; they are ready enough to tell them.””
About This Quote
This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.
Friendship demands tact; avoid harsh criticism unless absolutely necessary, letting enemies convey unpleasant truths.
In simple terms: Be kind to friends; reserve harshness for necessity.
Key Takeaway
Practice tactful communication.
Themes
friendship
communication
social etiquette
Mood
ethical
philosophical
Type
Disagreeable:0
Enemies:1
Friend:1
Friendship:1
Say Disagreeable:0
Flatter Friendship:0
Necessary Tact:1
Tact Courtesy:1
When to use this quote
- Tact may suppress needed honesty.
Key Concepts
personal relationships
conflict management
psychology
ethics
social norms
Questions to Reflect On
- reflective
- serious
A Different Perspective
When is bluntness justified?;How to balance honesty and kindness?