If I had a friend and loved him because of the benefits…
“If I had a friend and loved him because of the benefits which this brought me and because of getting my own way, then it would not be my friend that I loved but myself. I should love my friend on account of his own goodness and virtues and account of all that he is in himself. Only if I love my friend in this way do I love him properly.”
About This Quote
This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.
True love for a friend must be based on the friend's inherent goodness, not on personal benefit or self‑interest.
In simple terms: Love should be selfless, focusing on the other's virtues.
Cultivate selfless love rooted in appreciation of another's character.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- friendship
- mentorship
- community building
- conflict resolution
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- Do you love others for who they are or what they provide?
- How can you practice selfless love daily?
Self‑interest can masquerade as love, making pure motives hard to verify.