According to psychologist and author John Gottman, she was…
““According to psychologist and author John Gottman, she was right. His groundbreaking research revealed that a whopping 69 percent of problems in marriage do not get solved.3 His good news, though, is that many problems can be managed. Gottman states that couples can live with unresolvable conflicts about perpetual issues in their relationship if the issues are not deal breakers. Simply put, it is not the presence of conflict that stresses the relationship; it is the manner in which the couple responds. Positive, respectful communication about differences helps keep a marriage thriving.””
About This Quote
This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.
Effective communication, not conflict absence, sustains marriage; respectful dialogue manages perpetual issues.
In simple terms: Talk respectfully to manage conflict.
Practice respectful communication.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- counseling sessions
- marital workshops
- daily conversations
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you respond to disagreement?
- What respectful habits can you adopt?
Some conflicts may be deeper than communication can heal.