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Let’s face it. We’re undone by each other. And if we’re…

“Let’s face it. We’re undone by each other. And if we’re not, we’re missing something. If this seems so clearly the case with grief, it is only because it was already the case with desire. One does not always stay intact. It may be that one wants to, or does, but it may also be that despite one’s…” quote by Judith Butler
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““Let’s face it. We’re undone by each other. And if we’re not, we’re missing something. If this seems so clearly the case with grief, it is only because it was already the case with desire. One does not always stay intact. It may be that one wants to, or does, but it may also be that despite one’s best efforts, one is undone, in the face of the other, by the touch, by the scent, be the feel, by the prospect of the touch, by the memory of the feel.””

Judith Butler

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

The passage reflects on how grief and desire intertwine, showing that emotional states can destabilize personal identity and relationships.

In simple terms: Grief and desire can break us apart.

Key Takeaway

Recognize how emotions affect self and others.

Themes

identity grief desire interpersonal philosophy

Mood

reflective melancholic

Type

philosophical literary

When to use this quote

  • counseling sessions
  • artistic creation
  • relationship negotiations
  • self‑reflection

Key Concepts

subjectivity relationality affect theory

Questions to Reflect On

  • In what ways can grief deepen empathy?
  • How does desire shape our response to loss?
A Different Perspective

Emotions can also foster growth, not just rupture.

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