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The tears of those who never cry, the calm, the…

“The tears of those who never cry, the calm, the levelheaded ones, are terrible to see. She seemed to be split or torn by the force of the tears, which she squeezed her eyes shut against, which she forced back with her fist against her lips. Smokey, afraid and awed, came immediately to her as he…” quote by John Crowley
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““The tears of those who never cry, the calm, the levelheaded ones, are terrible to see. She seemed to be split or torn by the force of the tears, which she squeezed her eyes shut against, which she forced back with her fist against her lips. Smokey, afraid and awed, came immediately to her as he might to rescue his child from a fire, without thought and without knowing quite what he would do. When he tried to take her hand, speak softly to her, she only trembled more violently, the red cross branded on her face grew uglier; so he enveloped her, smothered the flames, Disregarding her resistance, as well as he could he covered her, having a vague idea that he could by tenderness invade her and then rout her grief, whatever it was, by main strength. He wasn't sure he wasn't himself the cause of it, wasn't sure if she would cling to him for comfort or break him in rage, but he had no choice anyway, savior or sacrifice, it didn't matter so long as she could cease suffering.””

John Crowley

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

A desperate attempt to soothe someone in profound grief, using physical comfort to quell emotional pain, despite uncertainty about the effect

In simple terms: Trying to comfort deep sorrow with physical closeness, despite doubt

Key Takeaway

Compassion can be both healing and uncertain

Themes

compassion grief comfort uncertainty intimacy

Mood

somber intense

Type

reflective emotional

When to use this quote

  • counseling
  • personal crisis
  • intimate support
  • fictional scene

Key Concepts

empathy emotional labor boundary setting

Questions to Reflect On

  • What limits does physical comfort have in grief?
  • How to balance empathy with self-protection?
A Different Perspective

Physical comfort may not resolve inner turmoil and can blur boundaries

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