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“Dear Mom and Dad, I know you’re only trying to do what’s best for me, but I don’t think anyone knows for sure what’s best. I love you and don’t want to be a problem, so I’ve decided to go away. I know you’ll say I’m not a problem, but I know I am. If you want to know why I’m doing this, you should…” quote by Jeffrey Eugenides
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““Dear Mom and Dad, I know you’re only trying to do what’s best for me, but I don’t think anyone knows for sure what’s best. I love you and don’t want to be a problem, so I’ve decided to go away. I know you’ll say I’m not a problem, but I know I am. If you want to know why I’m doing this, you should ask Dr. Luce, who is a big liar! I am not a girl. I’m a boy. That’s what I found out today. So I’m going where no one knows me. Everyone in Grosse Pointe will talk when they find out. Sorry I took your money, Dad, but I promise to pay you back someday, with interest. Please don’t worry about me. I will be ALL RIGHT! Despite it’s contents, I signed this declaration to my parents: “Callie.” It was the last time I was ever their daughter.””

Jeffrey Eugenides

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

A young person confesses to parents about gender identity, family conflict, and financial strain, pleading for understanding while planning to leave.

In simple terms: A youth tells parents they are a boy and wants to leave.

Key Takeaway

Seek honest communication and support.

Themes

identity family conflict financial departure

Mood

anxious hopeful

Type

personal emotional

When to use this quote

  • counseling sessions
  • support groups
  • financial planning
  • family discussions

Key Concepts

gender identity family dynamics

Questions to Reflect On

  • How can families better support gender-diverse youth?
  • What resources help navigate financial and emotional challenges?
A Different Perspective

The tone may lack nuance on gender identity issues.

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