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Hatred . . . When it comes to men and sex, David, nothing…

“Hatred . . . When it comes to men and sex, David, nothing surprises me any more. Maybe, for men, hating the woman makes sex more exciting. You are a man, you ought to know. When you have sex with someone strange - when you trap her, hold her down, get her under you, put all your weight on her…” quote by J.M.Coetzee
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““Hatred . . . When it comes to men and sex, David, nothing surprises me any more. Maybe, for men, hating the woman makes sex more exciting. You are a man, you ought to know. When you have sex with someone strange - when you trap her, hold her down, get her under you, put all your weight on her - isn't it a killing? Pushing the knife in; exiting afterwards, leaving the body behind covered in blood - doesn't it feel like murder, like getting away with murder?””

J.M.Coetzee

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

The passage explores how violence and domination in sexual encounters can be framed as a perverse thrill, equating it with murder and highlighting a detached, predatory mindset.

In simple terms: Violence in sex is described as a thrilling, murderous act.

Key Takeaway

Recognize and challenge harmful power dynamics.

Themes

power sex violence psychology

Mood

disturbing critical

Type

analytical philosophical

When to use this quote

  • intimate violence
  • consent discussions
  • psychological analysis

Key Concepts

predation masculinity objectification

Questions to Reflect On

  • How does power shape sexual behavior?
  • What ethical boundaries are crossed?
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