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“You know what the trouble with me is? I can never get really sexy―I mean really sexy―with a girl I don't like a lot. I mean I have to like her a lot. If I don't, I sort of lose my goddam desire for her and all.” quote by J.D. Salinger
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““You know what the trouble with me is? I can never get really sexy―I mean really sexy―with a girl I don't like a lot. I mean I have to like her a lot. If I don't, I sort of lose my goddam desire for her and all.””

J.D. Salinger

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

The speaker admits difficulty feeling sexual attraction toward someone they do not like, suggesting that emotional connection is essential for desire, and that lack of affection diminishes sexual interest.

In simple terms: Sexual desire depends on liking the person.

Key Takeaway

Desire needs emotional connection.

Themes

relationships sexuality emotion attraction psychology

Mood

thoughtful introspective curious

Type

personal psychological relational

When to use this quote

  • dating
  • long‑term relationships
  • personal reflection

Key Concepts

emotional intimacy sexual motivation

Questions to Reflect On

  • Can desire exist without liking someone?
  • What role does emotion play in attraction?
A Different Perspective

The view may not apply universally, as some experience attraction without strong emotional bonds.

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