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“Often when you go into a relationship with someone you like, you have to justify why you like that person. You only see what you want to see and you deny there are things you don't like about that person. You lie to yourself just to make yourself right. Then you make assumptions, and one of the…” quote by don Miquel Ruiz
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““Often when you go into a relationship with someone you like, you have to justify why you like that person. You only see what you want to see and you deny there are things you don't like about that person. You lie to yourself just to make yourself right. Then you make assumptions, and one of the assumptions is "My love will change this person." But this is not true. Your love will not change anybody. If others change, it's because they want to change, not because you can change them. Then something happens between the two of you, and you get hurt. Suddenly you see what you didn't want to see before, only now it is amplified by your emotional poison. Now you have to justify your emotional pain and blame them for your choices.””

don Miquel Ruiz

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

Analyzes love’s limits, noting that love cannot change others; assumptions cause pain, urging realistic expectations.

In simple terms: Love doesn’t change people; expectations cause hurt.

Key Takeaway

Set realistic expectations in love.

Themes

relationship expectations self‑deception pain

Mood

cautious reflective

Type

Emotional pain:1 Inspirational:0 Love:1 Love Change:0 Relationship Like:0 Justify Emotional:0 Emotional Poison:1 Assumptions Love:0

When to use this quote

  • dating
  • marriage
  • self‑reflection

Key Concepts

psychology sociology

Questions to Reflect On

  • What assumptions do you make in love?
  • How can you avoid emotional poison?
A Different Perspective

May overlook cases where love inspires growth.

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