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Politeness. Now there's a poor man's virtue if ever there…

“Politeness. Now there's a poor man's virtue if ever there was one. What's so admirable about inoffensiveness, I should like to know. After all, it's easily achieved. One needs no particular talent to be polite. On the contrary, being nice is what's left when you've failed at everything else…” quote by Diane Setterfield
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“Politeness. Now there's a poor man's virtue if ever there was one. What's so admirable about inoffensiveness, I should like to know. After all, it's easily achieved. One needs no particular talent to be polite. On the contrary, being nice is what's left when you've failed at everything else. People with ambition don't give a damn what other people think about them.”

Diane Setterfield

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

Politeness is portrayed as an easy, low‑effort virtue that masks deeper failures.

In simple terms: Politeness is a cheap virtue.

Key Takeaway

Recognize when politeness hides avoidance.

Themes

social behavior virtue self‑image

Mood

reflective critical

Type

observational philosophical

When to use this quote

  • interpersonal conflict
  • leadership
  • personal growth

Key Concepts

ego deflection insecurity

Questions to Reflect On

  • Do you use politeness to avoid conflict?
  • When is politeness harmful?
A Different Perspective

Politeness may prevent honest feedback.

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