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“She unwinds her scarf, taking so long about it that I wonder if she expects me to respond. “You were following the rules,” I offer after a minute. It makes her words no more pleasant. Resentment. Was that how she’d looked at me? Then how am I supposed to trust how she looks at me now? My words…” quote by Corinne Duyvis
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““She unwinds her scarf, taking so long about it that I wonder if she expects me to respond. “You were following the rules,” I offer after a minute. It makes her words no more pleasant. Resentment. Was that how she’d looked at me? Then how am I supposed to trust how she looks at me now? My words elicit a thankful smile. “Mostly, though, I knew you could do the job. Did you ever know other autistic people?” I shake my head. I’d heard rumors about one teacher, but never asked him. Mom had encouraged me to find a local support group, but I’d never seen the appeal—or the need. It wouldn’t change anything. I had friends, anyway. Peopleonline, my fellow volunteers at the Way Station. I even got along with Iris’s friends. “Well, I did, and I feel like a fool for never recognizing your autism. I had autistic colleagues at the university. They were accommodated, and they thrived. One researcher came in earlier than everyone else and would stay the longest. I saw the same strengths in you once I knew to look for them. You’re punctual, you’re precise, you’re trustworthy. When you don’t know something, you either figure it out or you ask, and either way, you get it right. I wanted to give you the same chance my colleagues had, and that other Nassau passengers got. One of the doctors is autistic—did you know?” Els silences an incoming call. “Does that answer your question?””

Corinne Duyvis

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

The passage explores the complexities of communication, misunderstanding, and the hidden strengths of autistic individuals, highlighting the need for empathy and recognition.

In simple terms: Misunderstandings can hide valuable traits; empathy reveals them.

Key Takeaway

Seek to understand before judging.

Themes

communication empathy autism misunderstanding strengths

Mood

reflective hopeful

Type

conversational inspirational

When to use this quote

  • workplace interactions
  • friendship dynamics
  • support groups
  • self‑advocacy

Key Concepts

Neurodiversity social perception inclusion

Questions to Reflect On

  • How can you better recognize hidden strengths?
  • What steps foster genuine understanding?
A Different Perspective

Assuming intent without clarification can deepen resentment.

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