Pity, Jane, from some people is a noxious and insulting…
““Pity, Jane, from some people is a noxious and insulting sort of tribute, which one is justified in hurling back in the teeth of those who offer it; but that is the sort of pity native to callous, selfish hearts; it is a hybrid, egotistical pain at hearing of woes, crossed with ignorant contempt for those who have endured them. But that is not your pity, Jane; it is not the feeling of which your whole face is full at this moment—with which your eyes are now almost overflowing—with which your heart is heaving—with which your hand is trembling in mine. Your pity, my darling, is the suffering mother of love: its anguish is the very natal pang of the divine passion. I accept it, Jane; let the daughter have free advent—my arms wait to receive her.””
About This Quote
This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.
True compassion arises from deep love, not from selfish pity or contempt. It is a painful, divine bond that nurtures and frees the beloved.
In simple terms: Genuine love is painful but liberating.
Embrace love’s suffering as a source of freedom.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- romantic relationships
- caregiving
- personal growth
- healing from trauma
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How does genuine love transform suffering?
- When does pity become a controlling force?
Pity can become manipulative if rooted in ego.