Do not expect too much of others. ... . This is to expect…
““Do not expect too much of others. ... . This is to expect of another a degree of altruism which is contrary to reason, since the loss to the altruist is greater than the gain to the egoist. In all your dealings with other people, especially with those who are nearest and dearest, it is important and not always easy to remember that they see life from their own angle and as it touches their own ego, not from your angle and as it touches yours. No person should be expected to distort the main lines of his life for the sake of another individual. On occasion there may exist such a strong affection that even the greatest sacrifices become natural, but if they are not natural they should not be made, and no person should be held blameworthy for not making them.””
About This Quote
This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.
People should not be expected to sacrifice their core life goals for others; altruism must be reasonable and not self‑destructive.
In simple terms: Don't demand unreasonable self‑sacrifice.
Key Takeaway
Balance self‑interest with compassion.
Themes
ethics
relationships
self‑care
Mood
thoughtful
reflective
Type
philosophical
ethical
When to use this quote
- family dynamics
- friendships
- workplace collaborations
- community service
Key Concepts
altruism
rationalism
egoism
Questions to Reflect On
- When is it appropriate to prioritize others?
- How do you set healthy boundaries?
A Different Perspective
Excessive self‑sacrifice can lead to resentment or burnout.