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“He will surmise that love can endure only when one is unfaithful to its beguiling opening ambitions, and that, for his relationships to work, he will need to give up on the feelings that got him into them in the first place. He will need to learn that love is a skill rather than an enthusiasm.” quote by Alain de Botton
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““He will surmise that love can endure only when one is unfaithful to its beguiling opening ambitions, and that, for his relationships to work, he will need to give up on the feelings that got him into them in the first place. He will need to learn that love is a skill rather than an enthusiasm.””

Alain de Botton

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

Love requires discipline and the willingness to set aside initial romantic fantasies for lasting partnership.

In simple terms: Love is a skill, not just passion.

Key Takeaway

Practice love deliberately.

Themes

relationships psychology personal growth

Mood

thoughtful encouraging

Type

philosophical inspirational

When to use this quote

  • marriage counseling
  • self‑improvement
  • long‑term partnership

Key Concepts

skill development emotional intelligence

Questions to Reflect On

  • How can you cultivate love as a practice?
  • What habits support lasting intimacy?
A Different Perspective

Idealizing love can cause disappointment.

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