I would advise you against defensiveness on priciple. it precludes the best eventualities along with the worst. At the most basic level… — Marilynne Robinson Copy Share Image
The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse predict an ailing marriage: Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling and Contempt. The worst of these is contempt. — John M. Gottman Copy Share Image
Guilt and defensiveness are bricks in a wall against which we all flounder; they serve none of our futures. — Audre Lorde Copy Share Image
“It is not the absence of defensiveness that characterizes learning teams but the way defensiveness is faced” — Peter M. Senge Copy Share Image
When people hear needs, it provokes compassion. When people hear diagnoses, it provokes defensiveness and attack. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Be honest, Look for areas where you can admit error and say so. Apologize for your mistakes. It will help disarm your… — Dale Carnegie Copy Share Image
guilt politics ... I regard as conveniently paralyzing, ripe for backlash defensiveness, counterproductive, and boring. — Robin Morgan Copy Share Image
“All defensiveness stems from the need to be right and frustration over not being able to control others.” — Bryant McGill Copy Share Image
“To switch effectively from defense to social engagement strategies, the nervous system must do two things: (1) assess risk, and (2) if… — Stephen W. Porges Copy Share Image
Why should you want to give up a child's wise not-understanding in exchange for defensiveness and scorn, since not-understanding is, after all,… — Rainer Maria Rilke Copy Share Image
You need your ego to survive in the three-dimensional world, but you need only that part of the ego which processes information.… — Brian Weiss Copy Share Image
A second characteristic of the process which for me is the good life, is that it involves an increasingly tendency to live… — Carl Rogers Copy Share Image
Whenever I allow anything but tenderness and compassion to dictate my response to life--be it self-righteous anger, moralizing, defensiveness, the pressing need… — Brennan Manning Copy Share Image
You are completely at choice who you will be today in your interactions with others. Compassionate, kind, giving and forgiving will create… — Marianne Williamson Copy Share Image
True sincerity reveals a powerful form of clarity and discernment that is necessary in order to perceive yourself honestly without flinching or… — Adyashanti Copy Share Image
“When things get personal, we need to resist the natural male instinct to run for cover, man the defenses, or--worst of all--reach… — Jeff Feldhahn Copy Share Image
“Laine had been very proud of herself last night. Nicholas had talked about ghosts and magic and woven a bit of a… — Stephen M. Irwin Copy Share Image
“Mutual defensiveness moves parents and children away from intersubjective experience and joint influence and into a desire to gain control of the… — Daniel A. Hughes Copy Share Image
This language is from the head. It is a way of mentally classifying people into varying shades of good and bad, right… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
![“Whenever I allow anything but tenderness and compassion to dictate my response to life--be it self-righteous anger, moralizing, defensiveness, the pressing need to change others...I am alienated from my true self. My identity as Abba's child [a child of God] becomes ambiguous, tentative and confused” quote by Brennan Manning](https://sms4smile.com/q/img-quotes/dbb/brennan-manning-959_ambiguous_whenever-i-allow-anything-but-tenderness_2805528.png)
