“frustration with a lack of progress by your ADHD spouse more often leads to anger than empathy.” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“heart of most chore wars is at least one ADHD symptom. It might be distraction, inability to initiate, inability to complete tasks,… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“adults with ADHD have at least one other condition, more than 50 percent have two or more, and more than one-third have… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“a great deal of damage is caused by lack of knowledge about, and misinterpretation of, ADHD symptoms. Couples who learn about the… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“Parenting” an ADHD spouse is always destructive to your relationship because it demotivates and generates frustration and anger.” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“Consider hiring professional help. This is a very difficult dynamic to change. A professional ADHD coach or therapist can help you identify… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“If you are married to a person who has (or might have) ADHD, you might feel ignored and lonely in your relationship.… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“days of “talks” about his “problem”? People with ADHD are all too aware that others think they are “broken,” and the resulting… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“Recognize, however, that some people with ADHD compensated for their ADHD in childhood but fall apart after they have too much on… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“Medication is the most efficient way to jump-start treatment, but it does not effectively treat ADHD in marriages without the addition of… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“Most often, a non-ADHD spouse can make this transition easily, but the ADHD spouse ends up lost; and because the non-ADHD spouse… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“Dr. John Ratey, an expert on how the brain functions, suggests that ADHD is the result of dysregulation of the reward system… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“information comes at a person with ADHD. The ADHD brain has few filters on it; often, everything enters at once, and in… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“Dr. John Ratey, a leading expert in both ADHD and the brain, suggests that ADHD can be thought of as a reward-deficiency… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“because people with ADHD don’t receive and process information in a hierarchical way, Maria’s suffering enters his mind at about the same… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“two time zones for a person with ADHD: “now” and “not now”! A person with ADHD is very present focused. Often, something… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“It is EXTREMELY STRESSFUL to feel like there is no companionship because I can’t rely on my husband to do what he said he… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“because people with ADHD don’t receive and process information in a hierarchical way, Maria’s suffering enters his mind at about the same level as… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“I hear so many excuses that I’ve pretty much become numb to his endless tales of woes. Communication is a major problem in our… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“He learns that getting things done doesn’t get him much credit, which demotivates him.” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“a great deal of damage is caused by lack of knowledge about, and misinterpretation of, ADHD symptoms. Couples who learn about the specific patterns… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“Applaud all forward progress. Research shows that encouragement, support, and recognition of success are far more effective than offering “help” when your goal is… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“You may feel desperately unhappy and lonely, and your partner isn’t even aware of it—even if you’ve tried to talk about it. You fight… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“Most often, a non-ADHD spouse can make this transition easily, but the ADHD spouse ends up lost; and because the non-ADHD spouse assumes that… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“frustration with a lack of progress by your ADHD spouse more often leads to anger than empathy.” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“Parenting” an ADHD spouse is always destructive to your relationship because it demotivates and generates frustration and anger.” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“for the non-ADHD spouse, the ADHD partner’s lack of participation in household chores becomes symbolic of all of the things that person doesn’t” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“Dr. John Ratey, an expert on how the brain functions, suggests that ADHD is the result of dysregulation of the reward system (primarily dopamine)… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“insecurity had nothing to do with reality. He loved me deeply. He just didn’t realize that he wasn’t paying attention because he was distracted… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
“Medication is the most efficient way to jump-start treatment, but it does not effectively treat ADHD in marriages without the addition of behavioral changes.… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share
