--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: To say we know a person is to write that…" description: "\"“To say we know a person is to write that person off.”\" — Yiyun Li" image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9e0/yiyun-li-12305_knowing_to-say-we-know-a-person-is-to-write-that_2040295.jpg" --- # To say we know a person is to write that person off. ![“To say we know a person is to write that person off.” quote by Yiyun Li](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9e0/yiyun-li-12305_knowing_to-say-we-know-a-person-is-to-write-that_2040295.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9e0/yiyun-li-12305_knowing_to-say-we-know-a-person-is-to-write-that_2040295.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9e0/yiyun-li-12305_knowing_to-say-we-know-a-person-is-to-write-that_2040295.jpg) > ““To say we know a person is to write that person off.”” [Yiyun Li](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/yiyun-li/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Assuming you fully understand someone reduces them to a static label, ignoring growth. **In simple terms:** Knowing someone fully limits them. Key Takeaway Avoid oversimplifying people. Themes empathy identity judgment Mood thoughtful cautious Type philosophical inspirational When to use this quote - personal relationships - team dynamics - conflict resolution Key Concepts psychology social perception Questions to Reflect On - What assumptions do you make about others? - How can you stay open to change? 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