--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I have never cataloged what I would want…" description: "\"“I have never cataloged what I would want in a marriage. I might as well do it now... I want an arrangement in which love and passion mingle and last. ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/47b/wendy-plump-43590_love_i-have-never-cataloged-what-i-would-want_11279.jpg" --- # I have never cataloged what I would want in a marriage. I… ![“I have never cataloged what I would want in a marriage. I might as well do it now... I want an arrangement in which love and passion mingle and last. I want a rock to lean against. I want sex to pierce reality and come blazing out the other side. I want to feel that someone has my back. I want it…” quote by Wendy Plump](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/47b/wendy-plump-43590_love_i-have-never-cataloged-what-i-would-want_11279.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/47b/wendy-plump-43590_love_i-have-never-cataloged-what-i-would-want_11279.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/47b/wendy-plump-43590_love_i-have-never-cataloged-what-i-would-want_11279.jpg) > ““I have never cataloged what I would want in a marriage. I might as well do it now... I want an arrangement in which love and passion mingle and last. I want a rock to lean against. I want sex to pierce reality and come blazing out the other side. I want to feel that someone has my back. I want it to be us against the world. I want marriage to be cool. I want the words wife and husband to resonate with joy. I want our intimacy to be inviolate. I want it all under one roof. I want the institution to deserve my energy and my commitment and the last decades of my life.I want what Jane Cooper called "A radiance of attention/Like the candle's flame when we eat." I want to wake up next to a person who feels what I feel - that there is a constant, self-renewing joy in being with the other.”” [Wendy Plump](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/wendy-plump/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. A desire for a marriage that blends love, passion, support, and shared purpose into a vibrant, enduring partnership. **In simple terms:** Seeking a deep, joyful partnership. Key Takeaway Marriage as a dynamic, supportive union. Themes love partnership intimacy commitment joy Mood hopeful intimate aspirational Type personal reflection relationship manifesto When to use this quote - long‑term relationship planning - marriage counseling - partner selection Key Concepts emotional fulfillment shared purpose mutual support Practical Applications - relationship coaching - marriage enrichment workshops Questions to Reflect On - What does a 'rock to lean against' look like in daily life? - How can couples sustain self‑renewing joy? ★ ★ ★ ★ ★ No ratings yet [Love](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/love/) [Love and passion](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/love-and-passion/) [Marriage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/marriage/) [Marriage Cool](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/marriage-cool-367933/) [Marriage Want](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/marriage-want-367930/) [Romance](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/romance/) [Want Intimacy](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/want-intimacy-339329/) [Want Jane](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/want-jane-367932/) [Want Marriage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/want-marriage-367931/) [Wife And Husband](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/wife-and-husband-213797/) ## Related quotes > [“I do not know what to say, how to tempt you. If you had a price, I would pay it. If you desired particular…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/charlotte-featherstone/i-do-not-know-what-to-say-how-to-tempt-you-if-you-had-a-price-i-would/) [Charlotte Featherstone](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/charlotte-featherstone/) > [“In other words, all I want to be is the Jane Austen of south Alabama”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/harper-lee/in-other-words-all-i-want-to-be-is-the-jane-austen-of-south-alabama/) [Harper Lee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/harper-lee/) > [“I know exactly what I want. I want you, Jane. There is no one else on this earth for me but you.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/tess-oliver/i-know-exactly-what-i-want-i-want-you-jane-there-is-no-one-else-on/) [Tess Oliver](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/tess-oliver/) > [...in other words, all I want to be is the Jane Austen of south Alabama Interview - March 1964](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/harper-lee/in-other-words-all-i-want-to-be-is-the-jane-austen-of-south-alabama-2/) [Harper Lee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/harper-lee/) > [“Marriage, in what is evidently its most popular version, is now on the one hand an intimate 'relationship' involving (ideally) two successful careerists in…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wendell-berry/marriage-in-what-is-evidently-its-most-popular-version-is-now-on-the/) [Wendell Berry](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/wendell-berry/) > [ “I wanted what she \[her mother\] had wanted, what we all want: everything. We want a mate who feels like family and a lover… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ariel-levy/i-wanted-what-she-her-mother-had-wanted-what-we-all-want-everything/) [Ariel Levy](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ariel-levy/) > [It's not like you can wake up and realize, 'Oh, I want intimacy,' and then it happens that day](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/joey-lauren-adams/it-s-not-like-you-can-wake-up-and-realize-oh-i-want-intimacy-and-then/) [Joey Lauren Adams](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/joey-lauren-adams/) > [“I want love without drama, romance without pain. I want intimacy without vulnerability. I want a guarantee. I want something that doesnt exist. Maybe…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/josh-riebock/i-want-love-without-drama-romance-without-pain-i-want-intimacy/) [Josh Riebock](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/josh-riebock/) > [Perhaps my problem in marriage-and it is the problem of many women-was to want both intimacy and independence. It is a difficult line to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/hedy-lamarr/perhaps-my-problem-in-marriage-and-it-is-the-problem-of-many-women/) [Hedy Lamarr](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/hedy-lamarr/) > [Agreement is never reached in love. The life of a wife and husband who love each other is never at rest. Whether the marriage…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jean-giraudoux/agreement-is-never-reached-in-love-the-life-of-a-wife-and-husband-who/) [Jean Giraudoux](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jean-giraudoux/) > [Do you ask why I am unwilling to marry a rich wife? It is because I am unwilling to be taken to husband by…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martial/do-you-ask-why-i-am-unwilling-to-marry-a-rich-wife-it-is-because-i-am/) [Martial](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martial/) > [“Arriving home, each man finds a woman and children waiting at the door, introduces himself, helps with the evening meal, reads stories to his…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alan-lightman/arriving-home-each-man-finds-a-woman-and-children-waiting-at-the-door/) [Alan Lightman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alan-lightman/) > [The question of world peace, the question of family peace, the question of peace between wife and husband, or peace between parents and children,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dalai-lama/the-question-of-world-peace-the-question-of-family-peace-the-question/) [Dalai Lama](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dalai-lama/) > [“As his hero and heroine pass the matrimonial barrier, the novelist generally drops the curtain, as if the drama were over then: the doubts…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/william-makepeace-thackeray/as-his-hero-and-heroine-pass-the-matrimonial-barrier-the-novelist/) [William Makepeace Thackeray](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/william-makepeace-thackeray/) > [“Obviously the most enduring way to make this commitment is through marriage. Yet because sexual liberals deny the differences between the sexes, their explanations…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/george-gilder/obviously-the-most-enduring-way-to-make-this-commitment-is-through/) [George Gilder](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/george-gilder/) ## More by Wendy Plump > [“Affairs are like a seventh day. They are a break from all duties and obligations and responsibilities. I'm not saying this is right and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wendy-plump/affairs-are-like-a-seventh-day-they-are-a-break-from-all-duties-and/) [Wendy Plump](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/wendy-plump/) > [“Coping with the strains in her own marriage, she told me that she had a simple way of getting around the tension with her…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wendy-plump/coping-with-the-strains-in-her-own-marriage-she-told-me-that-she-had/) [Wendy Plump](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/wendy-plump/) > [“They make sense in a superficial way, and they've been tossed around so much that they are almost a received wisdom. Spouses do feel…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wendy-plump/they-make-sense-in-a-superficial-way-and-they-ve-been-tossed-around/) [Wendy Plump](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/wendy-plump/) > [“Divorced people try to maintain at least a shred of respect for their former spouses. They say, He or she is the parent of…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wendy-plump/divorced-people-try-to-maintain-at-least-a-shred-of-respect-for-their/) [Wendy Plump](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/wendy-plump/) > [“As a young woman, I schooled my romantic sensibilities on the most impossible examples. "Romeo and Juliet" is one of my favorites. I once…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wendy-plump/as-a-young-woman-i-schooled-my-romantic-sensibilities-on-the-most/) [Wendy Plump](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/wendy-plump/) > [“When you start to get bored with your misery, you are on the first rung of recovery and you are beginning to climb back…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wendy-plump/when-you-start-to-get-bored-with-your-misery-you-are-on-the-first/) [Wendy Plump](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/wendy-plump/) > [“Emotional trauma is something we should be forced to take a formal course in during high school, sandwiched between advanced statistics and AP English.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wendy-plump/emotional-trauma-is-something-we-should-be-forced-to-take-a-formal/) [Wendy Plump](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/wendy-plump/) > [“Based on my perspective of him, man's men do not cheat. They get jazzed just by being manly.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wendy-plump/based-on-my-perspective-of-him-man-s-men-do-not-cheat-they-get-jazzed/) [Wendy Plump](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/wendy-plump/) [Explore all 9 Wendy Plump quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/wendy-plump/) ## More Love quotes > [Whatever meaning 'Annie's Song' had for me on a personal level, there was also a larger context. It could just as easily have been…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/john-denver/whatever-meaning-annie-s-song-had-for-me-on-a-personal-level-there/) [John Denver](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/john-denver/) > [Life is full of change. That's how we learn and grow.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/life-is-full-of-change-that-s-how-we-learn-and-grow/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [I need a bath." He chuckled. "You smell of smoke, as do I." The duke turned, leaning heavily on his cane. "Jameson, open the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/karen-hawkins/i-need-a-bath-he-chuckled-you-smell-of-smoke-as-do-i-the-duke-turned/) [Karen Hawkins](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/karen-hawkins/) > [I love going to Columbia, Missouri. That is a really underrated campus. It shocked me when I went there because I really didn't know…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kirk-herbstreit/i-love-going-to-columbia-missouri-that-is-a-really-underrated-campus/) [Kirk Herbstreit](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kirk-herbstreit/) > [Life works most perfectly when a reciprocal love relationship is in place between man and God.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/beth-moore/life-works-most-perfectly-when-a-reciprocal-love-relationship-is-in/) [Beth Moore](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/beth-moore/) > [We talk to God--that is prayer; God talks to us--that is inspiration.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/h-emilie-cady/we-talk-to-god-that-is-prayer-god-talks-to-us-that-is-inspiration/) [H. Emilie Cady](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/h-emilie-cady/) > [I fell in love with social work, and that was my undoing as a poet.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/carl-rakosi/i-fell-in-love-with-social-work-and-that-was-my-undoing-as-a-poet/) [Carl Rakosi](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/carl-rakosi/) > [You cant be controlling in improv.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/matt-walsh/you-cant-be-controlling-in-improv/) [Matt Walsh](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/matt-walsh/) > [Everyone needs someone to love, and I choose you.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/everyone-needs-someone-to-love-and-i-choose-you/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [I think, here's what I've realized from interviewing people, and I've been very open about my Catholicism and my love of Christ and I…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jay-mohr/i-think-here-s-what-i-ve-realized-from-interviewing-people-and-i-ve/) [Jay Mohr](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jay-mohr/) > [“To be loved by a man, truly loved, made a woman feel as if she could burst. Of course, Lia was strong and could…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/melody-anne/to-be-loved-by-a-man-truly-loved-made-a-woman-feel-as-if-she-could/) [Melody Anne](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/melody-anne/) > [So when you take those tears, don't look to see I'm alright. …\*Seal - Violet](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/eric-nickel/so-when-you-take-those-tears-don-t-look-to-see-i-m-alright-seal-violet/) [Eric Nickel](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/eric-nickel/) > [Two things revolutionised life: moving to the countryside and falling in love.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/nick-love/two-things-revolutionised-life-moving-to-the-countryside-and-falling/) [Nick Love](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/nick-love/) > [“That horrible stinging sensation returned, the muscles behind my eyes straining as the first tear began to fall. “I’m scared, too. For eighteen months…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/devon-ashley/that-horrible-stinging-sensation-returned-the-muscles-behind-my-eyes/) [Devon Ashley](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/devon-ashley/) > [I could program a 'fabulous, I love it' kind of hit season right now. I'm more interested in breaking boundaries, telling a story, defying…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/george-c-wolfe/i-could-program-a-fabulous-i-love-it-kind-of-hit-season-right-now-i-m/) [George C. Wolfe](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/george-c-wolfe/) [Browse all 233,035 Love quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/love/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“I have never cataloged what I would want in a marriage. I might as well do it now... I want an arrangement in which love and passion mingle and last. I want a rock to lean against. I want sex to pierce reality and come blazing out the other side. I want to feel that someone has my back. I want it to be us against the world. I want marriage to be cool. I want the words wife and husband to resonate with joy. I want our intimacy to be inviolate. I want it all under one roof. I want the institution to deserve my energy and my commitment and the last decades of my life.I want what Jane Cooper called \"A radiance of attention/Like the candle's flame when we eat.\" I want to wake up next to a person who feels what I feel - that there is a constant, self-renewing joy in being with the other.”", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Wendy Plump" }, "isPartOf": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#website" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wendy-plump/i-have-never-cataloged-what-i-would-want-in-a-marriage-i-might-as/", "about": { "@type": "Thing", "name": "Love" }, "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wendy-plump/i-have-never-cataloged-what-i-would-want-in-a-marriage-i-might-as/#quotation", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/47b/wendy-plump-43590_love_i-have-never-cataloged-what-i-would-want_11279.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/47b/wendy-plump-43590_love_i-have-never-cataloged-what-i-would-want_11279.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/47b/wendy-plump-43590_love_i-have-never-cataloged-what-i-would-want_11279.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“I have never cataloged what I would want in a marriage. I might as well do it now... I want an arrangement…” — Wendy Plump", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } }, { "@type": "BreadcrumbList", "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "name": "Home", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 2, "name": "Quotes", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 3, "name": "Wendy Plump", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/wendy-plump/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 4, "name": "“I have never cataloged what I...", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wendy-plump/i-have-never-cataloged-what-i-would-want-in-a-marriage-i-might-as/" } ], "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wendy-plump/i-have-never-cataloged-what-i-would-want-in-a-marriage-i-might-as/#breadcrumb" }, { "@type": "WebSite", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#website", "name": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/", "publisher": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } }, { "@type": "Organization", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization", "name": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/", "logo": { "@type": "ImageObject", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/themes/sq/assets/icons/icon-512.png", "width": 512, "height": 512 } } ] } ```