--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: It is to be broken. It is to be torn…" description: "\"It is to be broken. It is to be torn open. It is not to be reached and come to rest in ever. I turn against you, I break from you, I turn to you. We hu..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/1ce/wendell-berry-236_break_it-is-to-be-broken-it-is-to-be-torn-open_957059.jpg" --- # It is to be broken. It is to be torn open. It is not to be… ![“It is to be broken. It is to be torn open. It is not to be reached and come to rest in ever. I turn against you, I break from you, I turn to you. We hurt, and are hurt, and have each other for healing. It is healing. It is never whole.” quote by Wendell Berry](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/1ce/wendell-berry-236_break_it-is-to-be-broken-it-is-to-be-torn-open_957059.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/1ce/wendell-berry-236_break_it-is-to-be-broken-it-is-to-be-torn-open_957059.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/1ce/wendell-berry-236_break_it-is-to-be-broken-it-is-to-be-torn-open_957059.jpg) > “It is to be broken. It is to be torn open. It is not to be reached and come to rest in ever. I turn against you, I break from you, I turn to you. We hurt, and are hurt, and have each other for healing. It is healing. It is never whole.” [Wendell Berry](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/wendell-berry/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The passage explores brokenness, mutual pain, and the ongoing, imperfect process of healing together. **In simple terms:** Healing is shared, never complete, and requires mutual effort. Key Takeaway Embrace imperfect healing with others. Themes healing vulnerability interdependence Mood introspective hopeful Type philosophical inspirational When to use this quote - relationships - counseling - conflict resolution - community building Key Concepts psychology spirituality Questions to Reflect On - How can we support each other’s healing realistically? - What limits exist in seeking wholeness? 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