--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: It is not only our hatred of others that…" description: "\"It is not only our hatred of others that is dangerous but also and above all our hatred of ourselves: particularly that hatred of ourselves which is to..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/48b/thomas-merton-231_dangerous_it-is-not-only-our-hatred-of-others-that_164509.jpg" --- # It is not only our hatred of others that is dangerous but… ![“It is not only our hatred of others that is dangerous but also and above all our hatred of ourselves: particularly that hatred of ourselves which is too deep and too powerful to be consciously faced. For it is this which makes us see our own evil in others and unable to see it in ourselves.” quote by Thomas Merton](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/48b/thomas-merton-231_dangerous_it-is-not-only-our-hatred-of-others-that_164509.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/48b/thomas-merton-231_dangerous_it-is-not-only-our-hatred-of-others-that_164509.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/48b/thomas-merton-231_dangerous_it-is-not-only-our-hatred-of-others-that_164509.jpg) > “It is not only our hatred of others that is dangerous but also and above all our hatred of ourselves: particularly that hatred of ourselves which is too deep and too powerful to be consciously faced. For it is this which makes us see our own evil in others and unable to see it in ourselves.” [Thomas Merton](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/thomas-merton/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Self‑hatred blinds us, causing us to project our flaws onto others and miss our own moral failings. **In simple terms:** Hating ourselves prevents honest self‑reflection. Key Takeaway Cultivate self‑compassion to see truth clearly. Themes self‑awareness psychology morality humility reflection Mood reflective somber Type philosophical motivational When to use this quote - personal therapy - mindfulness practice - conflict resolution - leadership development - educational workshops Key Concepts projection inner conflict self‑criticism ethical perception Questions to Reflect On - What steps can we take to confront deep self‑hatred? - How does self‑compassion change our view of others? 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