--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Then we’re just sitting there, staring at…" description: "\"“Then we’re just sitting there, staring at each other. Which has been happening a lot lately. It’s like whatever wall there was between us, however she..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d8f/susane-colasanti-1873_destiny_then-we-re-just-sitting-there-staring-at_1086259.jpg" --- # Then we’re just sitting there, staring at each other… ![“Then we’re just sitting there, staring at each other. Which has been happening a lot lately. It’s like whatever wall there was between us, however she was holding herself back from me . . . all of that pretense is gone. “And when you find a soul mate,” Sara says, “it’s undeniable. You have to be…” quote by Susane Colasanti](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d8f/susane-colasanti-1873_destiny_then-we-re-just-sitting-there-staring-at_1086259.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d8f/susane-colasanti-1873_destiny_then-we-re-just-sitting-there-staring-at_1086259.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d8f/susane-colasanti-1873_destiny_then-we-re-just-sitting-there-staring-at_1086259.jpg) > ““Then we’re just sitting there, staring at each other. Which has been happening a lot lately. It’s like whatever wall there was between us, however she was holding herself back from me . . . all of that pretense is gone. “And when you find a soul mate,” Sara says, “it’s undeniable. You have to be together.” “That’s my philosophy.” I look back at her. “You have to go with the flow.” “Exactly. I think the universe guides you to make the right choices.” “Do you believe in fate?” “I guess, but . . . it’s more about creating the life you want so you can make that fate a reality. You know?”” [Susane Colasanti](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susane-colasanti/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Finding a soulmate removes pretenses, aligning destiny with intentional creation of one’s life. **In simple terms:** Soulmates align fate and choice. Key Takeaway Follow your heart while shaping your path. Themes love destiny choice growth Mood hopeful contemplative Type romantic philosophical When to use this quote - Dating - life planning - personal development Key Concepts Self‑actualization fate vs free will authenticity Questions to Reflect On - Do you believe fate or agency guides love? - How can you create your desired future? 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