--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Doggone, I never thought I’d lose my…" description: "\"“Doggone, I never thought I’d lose my mind.” I was startled at the time to realize this – that he had thought about it. But now that he is dead…it’s my..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a52/sue-miller-18553_death_doggone-i-never-thought-i-d-lose-my-mind_961473.jpg" --- # Doggone, I never thought I’d lose my mind.” I was startled… ![“Doggone, I never thought I’d lose my mind.” I was startled at the time to realize this – that he had thought about it. But now that he is dead…it’s my turn to think of it – of death – and I do. I wonder how it will come to me. And when I do, I remember this moment; when my father seemed to be…” quote by Sue Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a52/sue-miller-18553_death_doggone-i-never-thought-i-d-lose-my-mind_961473.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a52/sue-miller-18553_death_doggone-i-never-thought-i-d-lose-my-mind_961473.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a52/sue-miller-18553_death_doggone-i-never-thought-i-d-lose-my-mind_961473.jpg) > ““Doggone, I never thought I’d lose my mind.” I was startled at the time to realize this – that he had thought about it. But now that he is dead…it’s my turn to think of it – of death – and I do. I wonder how it will come to me. And when I do, I remember this moment; when my father seemed to be getting the news about his fate, about how it would b e for him, when he took it in and accepted it and was, somehow, interested in it, all at the same time, before my eyes. It was a moment as characteristic of him as any I can think of in his life, and as brave. Noble, really, I’ve come to feel.”” [Sue Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sue-miller/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The speaker reflects on confronting mortality after a loved one's death, noting the father's calm acceptance and its impact on the speaker's own thoughts about death. **In simple terms:** Facing death after a loved one's calm acceptance shapes personal reflection. Key Takeaway Embrace honest contemplation of mortality. Themes mortality acceptance family reflection bravery Mood somber reflective Type philosophical emotional When to use this quote - mourning - personal growth - philosophical contemplation Key Concepts existentialism grief psychology Questions to Reflect On - How does observing calm acceptance influence your view of death? - What can you learn from your father's bravery? 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