--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: We also want strength to be the stance we…" description: "\"“We also want strength to be the stance we cultivate so that life doesn’t hurt. If I’m strong enough, fortified enough, then that must mean I can keep ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/5f1/stephanee-killen-27232_life_we-also-want-strength-to-be-the-stance-w_457529.jpg" --- # We also want strength to be the stance we cultivate so… ![“We also want strength to be the stance we cultivate so that life doesn’t hurt. If I’m strong enough, fortified enough, then that must mean I can keep pain at bay. But I’m strong, and I’m hurting. I have to let it wash over me because that’s all that I can do. Breathe it in, all this pain. I am in…” quote by Stephanee Killen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/5f1/stephanee-killen-27232_life_we-also-want-strength-to-be-the-stance-w_457529.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/5f1/stephanee-killen-27232_life_we-also-want-strength-to-be-the-stance-w_457529.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/5f1/stephanee-killen-27232_life_we-also-want-strength-to-be-the-stance-w_457529.jpg) > ““We also want strength to be the stance we cultivate so that life doesn’t hurt. If I’m strong enough, fortified enough, then that must mean I can keep pain at bay. But I’m strong, and I’m hurting. I have to let it wash over me because that’s all that I can do. Breathe it in, all this pain. I am in the low places. I don’t know what to do anymore, to make my picture a reality. I have come to the place of surrender. I can only let go of this specific picture; I can only see what else I can create from the pieces.”” [Stephanee Killen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/stephanee-killen/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The passage describes a struggle with pain, surrender, and the need to release a specific vision to allow new creation. **In simple terms:** Pain and surrender lead to new possibilities. Key Takeaway Release fixed expectations to foster new creation. Themes pain resilience surrender creativity Mood introspective hopeful Type reflection inspirational When to use this quote - creative projects - personal crises - mental health coping - artistic blocks Key Concepts acceptance transformation Questions to Reflect On - What does surrender look like for you? - How can pain be transformed into art? 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