--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: There is an emotional promiscuity we’ve…" description: "\"“There is an emotional promiscuity we’ve noticed among many good young men and women. The young man understands something of the journey of the heart. ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/927/stasi-eldredge-10495_men-and-women_there-is-an-emotional-promiscuity-we-ve_2283362.jpg" --- # There is an emotional promiscuity we’ve noticed among many… ![“There is an emotional promiscuity we’ve noticed among many good young men and women. The young man understands something of the journey of the heart. He wants to talk, to “share the journey.” The woman is grateful to be pursued, she opens up. They share the intimacies of their lives - their…” quote by Stasi Eldredge](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/927/stasi-eldredge-10495_men-and-women_there-is-an-emotional-promiscuity-we-ve_2283362.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/927/stasi-eldredge-10495_men-and-women_there-is-an-emotional-promiscuity-we-ve_2283362.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/927/stasi-eldredge-10495_men-and-women_there-is-an-emotional-promiscuity-we-ve_2283362.jpg) > ““There is an emotional promiscuity we’ve noticed among many good young men and women. The young man understands something of the journey of the heart. He wants to talk, to “share the journey.” The woman is grateful to be pursued, she opens up. They share the intimacies of their lives - their wounds, their walks with God. But he never commits. He enjoys her... then leaves. And she wonders, What did I do wrong? She failed to see his passivity. He really did not ever commit or offer assurances that he would. Like Willoughby to Marianne in Sense and Sensibility. Be careful you do not offer too much of yourself to a man until you have good, solid evidence that he is a strong man willing to commit. Look at his track record with other women. Is there anything to be concerned about there? If so, bring it up. Also, does he have any close male friends - and what are they like as men? Can he hold down a job? Is he walking with God in a real and intimate way? Is he facing the wounds of his own life, and is he also demonstrating a desire to repent of Adam’s passivity and/or violence? Is he headed somewhere with his life? A lot of questions, but your heart is a treasure, and we want you to offer it only to a man who is worthy and ready to handle it well.”” [Stasi Eldredge](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/stasi-eldredge/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Young people often share deep emotions without commitment, leading to heartbreak; seek evidence of stability before investing. **In simple terms:** Don’t give your heart away without proof. Key Takeaway Check commitment before deep involvement. Themes relationships trust commitment Mood cautious hopeful Type advice reflective When to use this quote - dating - friendships - marriage counseling - personal growth Key Concepts emotional intelligence red dynamics spiritual health Questions to Reflect On - What signs indicate genuine commitment? - How can you balance openness with self‑protection? 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