--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: How do they do it, the ones who make love…" description: "\"“How do they do it, the ones who make love without love? How do they come to the come to the come to the God come to the still waters, and not love the..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4a7/sharon-olds-8682_love_how-do-they-do-it-the-ones-who-make-love_159400.jpg" --- # How do they do it, the ones who make love without love?… ![“How do they do it, the ones who make love without love? How do they come to the come to the come to the God come to the still waters, and not love the one who came there with them, light rising slowly as steam off their joined skin?” quote by Sharon Olds](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4a7/sharon-olds-8682_love_how-do-they-do-it-the-ones-who-make-love_159400.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4a7/sharon-olds-8682_love_how-do-they-do-it-the-ones-who-make-love_159400.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4a7/sharon-olds-8682_love_how-do-they-do-it-the-ones-who-make-love_159400.jpg) > ““How do they do it, the ones who make love without love? How do they come to the come to the come to the God come to the still waters, and not love the one who came there with them, light rising slowly as steam off their joined skin?”” [Sharon Olds](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sharon-olds/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The quote reflects on the paradox of physical intimacy lacking emotional depth, questioning how people can be physically close yet emotionally distant, and yearning for a deeper, shared spiritual connection. **In simple terms:** Physical closeness without emotional love feels empty. Key Takeaway Seek deeper emotional connection beyond physical intimacy. Themes love intimacy spirituality loneliness connection Mood melancholy contemplative longing Type poetic philosophical When to use this quote - relationships - sexual encounters - spiritual reflection Key Concepts emotional intimacy spiritual yearning human paradox Questions to Reflect On - Can physical intimacy ever replace emotional love? - How can we cultivate deeper spiritual connections in relationships? 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