--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: And the more I started to think of our…" description: "\"“And the more I started to think of our relationship as a success and less as a dysfunctional fuck-fest, I was basically like. “Yeah, sometimes I do wa..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c67/sara-quin-7966_success_and-the-more-i-started-to-think-of-our-r_2970565.jpg" --- # And the more I started to think of our relationship as a… ![“And the more I started to think of our relationship as a success and less as a dysfunctional fuck-fest, I was basically like. “Yeah, sometimes I do want to punch Tegan, but 99.9 times out of 100, I don’t.” quote by Sara Quin](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c67/sara-quin-7966_success_and-the-more-i-started-to-think-of-our-r_2970565.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c67/sara-quin-7966_success_and-the-more-i-started-to-think-of-our-r_2970565.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c67/sara-quin-7966_success_and-the-more-i-started-to-think-of-our-r_2970565.jpg) > ““And the more I started to think of our relationship as a success and less as a dysfunctional fuck-fest, I was basically like. “Yeah, sometimes I do want to punch Tegan, but 99.9 times out of 100, I don’t.”” [Sara Quin](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sara-quin/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Reframing a turbulent relationship as a partnership reduces hostility and promotes patience. **In simple terms:** Seeing a relationship as a success lowers aggression. Key Takeaway Focus on shared goals, not conflict. Themes relationships conflict resolution mindset Mood reflective hopeful Type advice inspirational When to use this quote - personal relationships - team projects - family dynamics Key Concepts psychology emotional intelligence Questions to Reflect On - How can you maintain this perspective during setbacks? - What habits reinforce viewing relationships positively? 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