--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: And I never wanted Tegan to not get what…" description: "\"“And I never wanted Tegan to not get what I was gonna get. It’s something that goes very, very much back to a very deep childhood place. She was the mo..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d6c/sara-quin-7966_childhood_and-i-never-wanted-tegan-to-not-get-what_562285.jpg" --- # And I never wanted Tegan to not get what I was gonna get… ![“And I never wanted Tegan to not get what I was gonna get. It’s something that goes very, very much back to a very deep childhood place. She was the most important person to me, and probably at some point developmentally, I couldn’t even detach she was something separate from me.” quote by Sara Quin](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d6c/sara-quin-7966_childhood_and-i-never-wanted-tegan-to-not-get-what_562285.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d6c/sara-quin-7966_childhood_and-i-never-wanted-tegan-to-not-get-what_562285.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d6c/sara-quin-7966_childhood_and-i-never-wanted-tegan-to-not-get-what_562285.jpg) > ““And I never wanted Tegan to not get what I was gonna get. It’s something that goes very, very much back to a very deep childhood place. She was the most important person to me, and probably at some point developmentally, I couldn’t even detach she was something separate from me.”” [Sara Quin](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sara-quin/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Describes deep emotional attachment to a child, blurring boundaries between self and the other, reflecting on personal development and attachment. **In simple terms:** Strong bond with a child makes it hard to see them as separate. Key Takeaway Recognize and nurture healthy boundaries. Themes family attachment psychology Mood reflective intimate Type personal psychological When to use this quote - parent‑child relationships - therapy sessions - personal growth - family counseling - self‑reflection Key Concepts developmental psychology emotional dependence parenthood identity formation Questions to Reflect On - How does this attachment affect personal growth? - What steps can foster healthier boundaries? 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