--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Shit, I don’t know what the hell I’m…" description: "\"“Shit, I don’t know what the hell I’m saying. Violet is turning me into a fucking pansy. I used to be a hard ass, and now I’m talking about feelings an..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/810/sara-ney-25314_old-people_shit-i-don-t-know-what-the-hell-i-m-sayi_1083671.jpg" --- # Shit, I don’t know what the hell I’m saying. Violet is… ![“Shit, I don’t know what the hell I’m saying. Violet is turning me into a fucking pansy. I used to be a hard ass, and now I’m talking about feelings and all that other bullshit. Soon she’s going to have me holding babies and volunteering with old people, I just fucking know it.” quote by Sara Ney](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/810/sara-ney-25314_old-people_shit-i-don-t-know-what-the-hell-i-m-sayi_1083671.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/810/sara-ney-25314_old-people_shit-i-don-t-know-what-the-hell-i-m-sayi_1083671.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/810/sara-ney-25314_old-people_shit-i-don-t-know-what-the-hell-i-m-sayi_1083671.jpg) > ““Shit, I don’t know what the hell I’m saying. Violet is turning me into a fucking pansy. I used to be a hard ass, and now I’m talking about feelings and all that other bullshit. Soon she’s going to have me holding babies and volunteering with old people, I just fucking know it.”” [Sara Ney](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sara-ney/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The speaker laments losing a tough image as a partner influences them toward vulnerability and caregiving. **In simple terms:** Losing a tough image leads to caring roles. Key Takeaway Embrace change, don’t fear vulnerability. Themes identity gender roles relationships Mood conflicted humorous reflective Type dialogue comic social commentary When to use this quote - career transition - parenthood - volunteering - personal growth Key Concepts masculinity emotional expression caregiving Questions to Reflect On - How does vulnerability affect self‑esteem? - What can be gained from caring for others? A Different Perspective May overlook benefits of emotional openness. ★ ★ ★ ★ ★ No ratings yet [Old people](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/old-people/) [Violet](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/violet/) ## Related quotes > [“When Sebastian, cearly delighted to be treated like one of the guys, didn't move, Alex bared his teeth. " Depeche-toi! " Sebastian depeched. Alex…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/melissa-jensen/when-sebastian-cearly-delighted-to-be-treated-like-one-of-the-guys/) [Melissa Jensen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/melissa-jensen/) > [“The best part of me is you, Violet.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sara-ney/the-best-part-of-me-is-you-violet/) [Sara Ney](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sara-ney/) > [“Soon she’s going to have me holding babies and volunteering with old people, I just fucking know it. Whatever. I’d do it. I’d do…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sara-ney/soon-she-s-going-to-have-me-holding-babies-and-volunteering-with-old/) [Sara Ney](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sara-ney/) > [And I think from a male perspective, we have men talking about their feelings and it being okay.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/morris-chestnut/and-i-think-from-a-male-perspective-we-have-men-talking-about-their/) [Morris Chestnut](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/morris-chestnut/) > [In life three things we cannot control or stop Thinking, Talking and feelings.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/in-life-three-things-we-cannot-control-or-stop-thinking-talking-and/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [“Contrary to what they keep telling you in Cosmo Girl,” he said, shuffling forward in his chair. “We actually don’t stay on the phone…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/bianca-scardoni/contrary-to-what-they-keep-telling-you-in-cosmo-girl-he-said/) [Bianca Scardoni](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/bianca-scardoni/) > [“Talking about feelings to a man will feel like work. When he’s with a woman, he wants it to feel like fun.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sherry-argov/talking-about-feelings-to-a-man-will-feel-like-work-when-he-s-with-a/) [Sherry Argov](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sherry-argov/) > [“What if talking about your feelings doesn't fix anything? What if what you really need is to make the feelings go away?”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/amy-reed/what-if-talking-about-your-feelings-doesn-t-fix-anything-what-if-what/) [Amy Reed](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/amy-reed/) > [“Flat out sober and talking about her feelings, every damned day.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/olivia-gaines/flat-out-sober-and-talking-about-her-feelings-every-damned-day/) [Olivia Gaines](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/olivia-gaines/) > [I can tell what inspired the songs for me, or what I was thinking and feeling at the time. But I don't want that…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/nicholas-thorburn/i-can-tell-what-inspired-the-songs-for-me-or-what-i-was-thinking-and/) [Nicholas Thorburn](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/nicholas-thorburn/) > [“She fucking turns me inside out." "Women who matter have a way of doing that." Lucas scowled. "We sound like a couple of women,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/nalini-singh/she-fucking-turns-me-inside-out-women-who-matter-have-a-way-of-doing/) [Nalini Singh](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/nalini-singh/) > [“Talking about your feelings helps you let go of your anger. And it takes a lot of energy to be angry all the time.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jennifer-echols/talking-about-your-feelings-helps-you-let-go-of-your-anger-and-it/) [Jennifer Echols](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jennifer-echols/) > [I've always been good at talking about my feelings; that helps with writing songs.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anne-marie/i-ve-always-been-good-at-talking-about-my-feelings-that-helps-with/) [Anne-Marie](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anne-marie/) > [Can we go to work now? Because we're about a minute away from breaking out the ice cream and talking about our feelings, and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jennifer-crusie/can-we-go-to-work-now-because-we-re-about-a-minute-away-from-breaking/) [Jennifer Crusie](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jennifer-crusie/) > [Teachers need to be comfortable talking about feelings.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/daniel-goleman/teachers-need-to-be-comfortable-talking-about-feelings/) [Daniel Goleman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/daniel-goleman/) ## More by Sara Ney > [“I might be a douchebag, but I’m not a quitter.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sara-ney/i-might-be-a-douchebag-but-i-m-not-a-quitter/) [Sara Ney](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sara-ney/) > [“Ethereal. Sweet, like she showers in flowers, rainbows, sunshine and shit.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sara-ney/ethereal-sweet-like-she-showers-in-flowers-rainbows-sunshine-and-shit/) [Sara Ney](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sara-ney/) > [“Soon she’s going to have me holding babies and volunteering with old people, I just fucking know it. Whatever. I’d do it. I’d do…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sara-ney/soon-she-s-going-to-have-me-holding-babies-and-volunteering-with-old/) [Sara Ney](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sara-ney/) > [“That’s fine. I’ve been fighting for better my whole life. One scared man-child isn’t going to stop me from finding it.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sara-ney/that-s-fine-i-ve-been-fighting-for-better-my-whole-life-one-scared/) [Sara Ney](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sara-ney/) > [“I know she’s selfless, but only to a point. Kindhearted. Quiet. Inexperienced. Stronger than either of us recognize. Too goddamn trusting. 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You’re already off to a shitty start.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sara-ney/dude-let-s-be-honest-you-re-going-to-be-a-horrible-boyfriend-like-the/) [Sara Ney](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sara-ney/) > [“God, I like him so much. Drown in his goodness. His kind spirit and pure heart. The romance of his second language. Sweet brown…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sara-ney/god-i-like-him-so-much-drown-in-his-goodness-his-kind-spirit-and-pure/) [Sara Ney](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sara-ney/) > [“I’m not out of his league; he’s out of mine.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sara-ney/i-m-not-out-of-his-league-he-s-out-of-mine/) [Sara Ney](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sara-ney/) > [“I’m quickly learning that Rhett Rabideaux isn’t most guys”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sara-ney/i-m-quickly-learning-that-rhett-rabideaux-isn-t-most-guys/) [Sara Ney](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sara-ney/) > [“Brace yourself, Jim; I’m going to date the shit out of you.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sara-ney/brace-yourself-jim-i-m-going-to-date-the-shit-out-of-you/) [Sara Ney](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sara-ney/) > [“Is sex all you ever think about? You’re relentless.” “No, it’s not all I ever think about, but I swear, something about those goddamn…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sara-ney/is-sex-all-you-ever-think-about-you-re-relentless-no-it-s-not-all-i/) [Sara Ney](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sara-ney/) > [“I wonder if life is going outside to have a smoke right now, because it just got done fucking me. Fucking me hard. Logically,”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sara-ney/i-wonder-if-life-is-going-outside-to-have-a-smoke-right-now-because/) [Sara Ney](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sara-ney/) > [“Sweetheart, Oz is a nickname. Haven’t you googled me yet?” Amused blue eyes roll. “I’m sure you google yourself enough for the both of us.”…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sara-ney/sweetheart-oz-is-a-nickname-haven-t-you-googled-me-yet-amused-blue/) [Sara Ney](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sara-ney/) [Explore all 23 Sara Ney quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sara-ney/) ## More Old people quotes > [“Exactly. I think the original tantric Buddhists took notice of was some very wise old people who never studied in their youth, but took…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/joe-niemczura/exactly-i-think-the-original-tantric-buddhists-took-notice-of-was/) [Joe Niemczura](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/joe-niemczura/) > [“Eddie saw great things and near misses. Albert Einstein as a child, not quite struck by a run-away milk-wagon as he crossed a street.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/stephen-king/eddie-saw-great-things-and-near-misses-albert-einstein-as-a-child-not/) [Stephen King](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/stephen-king/) > [I like making films about old people because they are repositories of amazing stories that they tell well. And they're incredibly good telly.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ian-hislop/i-like-making-films-about-old-people-because-they-are-repositories-of/) [Ian Hislop](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ian-hislop/) > [“There were more old people. 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