--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I don't know if it's more acceptable or…" description: "\"I don't know if it's more acceptable or if black men are more comfortable. Black men certainly are more comfortable with it. I don't know that society,..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/589/sanaa-lathan-12439_acceptable_i-don-t-know-if-it-s-more-acceptable-or_2579267.jpg" --- # I don't know if it's more acceptable or if black men are… ![“I don't know if it's more acceptable or if black men are more comfortable. Black men certainly are more comfortable with it. I don't know that society, like white society loves it or black women. When you see a black man with a white woman there is a feeling that you have and I think the feeling…” quote by Sanaa Lathan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/589/sanaa-lathan-12439_acceptable_i-don-t-know-if-it-s-more-acceptable-or_2579267.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/589/sanaa-lathan-12439_acceptable_i-don-t-know-if-it-s-more-acceptable-or_2579267.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/589/sanaa-lathan-12439_acceptable_i-don-t-know-if-it-s-more-acceptable-or_2579267.jpg) > “I don't know if it's more acceptable or if black men are more comfortable. Black men certainly are more comfortable with it. I don't know that society, like white society loves it or black women. When you see a black man with a white woman there is a feeling that you have and I think the feeling is an instinctual feeling of you want her you don't want me. I don't look anything like her, so you don't like. You know what I mean? Something like that. It's a real instinctual primal thing.” [Sanaa Lathan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sanaa-lathan/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The speaker suggests that interracial attraction may be driven by instinctual, societal perceptions of desirability, reflecting complex racial dynamics. **In simple terms:** Racial attraction feels instinctual and socially influenced. Key Takeaway Recognize and challenge hidden biases. Themes race attraction social perception identity instinct Mood thoughtful critical Type observational analytical When to use this quote - dating - media representation - personal reflection Key Concepts social psychology racial dynamics interpersonal desire Questions to Reflect On - How do societal narratives shape personal attraction? - Can we separate instinct from prejudice? 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