--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: And then there was moments with white guy…" description: "\"And then there was moments with white guy where like we would be in Harlem. There would be five brothers in the corner, and this is an awful feeling bu..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/39e/sanaa-lathan-12439_awful_and-then-there-was-moments-with-white-gu_2472589.png" --- # And then there was moments with white guy where like we… ![“And then there was moments with white guy where like we would be in Harlem. There would be five brothers in the corner, and this is an awful feeling but you're holding his hand and you want to pull your hand away cause you don't want the judgment. And you're gonna get the judgment even if it's…” quote by Sanaa Lathan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/39e/sanaa-lathan-12439_awful_and-then-there-was-moments-with-white-gu_2472589.png) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/39e/sanaa-lathan-12439_awful_and-then-there-was-moments-with-white-gu_2472589.png) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/39e/sanaa-lathan-12439_awful_and-then-there-was-moments-with-white-gu_2472589.png) > “And then there was moments with white guy where like we would be in Harlem. There would be five brothers in the corner, and this is an awful feeling but you're holding his hand and you want to pull your hand away cause you don't want the judgment. And you're gonna get the judgment even if it's just in looks. And the black men are the worst when it comes to judging.” [Sanaa Lathan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sanaa-lathan/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Feeling judged by peers, especially when crossing cultural lines, creates inner conflict and desire to withdraw. **In simple terms:** Judgment feels painful, especially across cultures. Key Takeaway Recognize and challenge internalized judgment. Themes identity judgment culture relationships Mood anxious reflective Type personal social When to use this quote - college campus - workplace - social gatherings - friendship - family events Key Concepts social perception self‑esteem intercultural dynamics Questions to Reflect On - How do you respond when you sense judgment? - What steps can you take to reduce fear of others' opinions? 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