--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: If I marry: He must be so tall that when…" description: "\"If I marry: He must be so tall that when he is on his knees, as one has said he reaches all the way to heaven. His shoulders must be broad enough to be..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/dfc/anonymous-1_active_if-i-marry-he-must-be-so-tall-that-when_2069031.jpg" --- # If I marry: He must be so tall that when he is on his… ![“If I marry: He must be so tall that when he is on his knees, as one has said he reaches all the way to heaven. His shoulders must be broad enough to bear the burden of a family. His lips must be strong enough to smile, firm enough to say no, and tender enough to kiss. Love must be so deep that it…” quote by Ruth Bell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/dfc/anonymous-1_active_if-i-marry-he-must-be-so-tall-that-when_2069031.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/dfc/anonymous-1_active_if-i-marry-he-must-be-so-tall-that-when_2069031.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/dfc/anonymous-1_active_if-i-marry-he-must-be-so-tall-that-when_2069031.jpg) > “If I marry: He must be so tall that when he is on his knees, as one has said he reaches all the way to heaven. His shoulders must be broad enough to bear the burden of a family. His lips must be strong enough to smile, firm enough to say no, and tender enough to kiss. Love must be so deep that it takes its stand in Christ and so wide that it takes the whole lost world in. He must be active enough to save souls. He must be big enough to be gentle and great enough to be thoughtful. His arms must be strong enough to carry a little child.” Ruth Bell ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The ideal partner is described with exaggerated, almost mythic physical and moral qualities, reflecting cultural expectations of masculinity and devotion. **In simple terms:** A perfect husband is imagined as tall, strong, and spiritually devoted. Key Takeaway Seek realistic expectations over fantasy. Themes relationships gender roles spirituality idealism family Mood hopeful critical Type Active:1 Arms:0 Bears:0 Bigs:0 Broads:0 Burden:0 Children:1 Christ:1 Enough:1 Family:1 Firm:1 Gentle:1 Heaven:1 Kissing:1 Knees:1 Lips:1 Littles:0 Lost:0 Love:1 Marry:0 Said:0 Shoulders:1 Soul:1 Strong:1 Tall:1 Thoughtful:1 Way:0 World:0 Lost World:0 Tall Knees:0 Marry Tall:0 When to use this quote - marriage counseling - dating - religious matchmaking - family planning Key Concepts mythology social norms expectations Questions to Reflect On - Do you truly need all these traits? - How can love thrive with imperfections? A Different Perspective Such lofty standards can be unattainable and create pressure. ★ ★ ★ ★ ★ No ratings yet [Bears](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/bears/) [Burden](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/burden/) [Children](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/children/) [Christ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/christ/) [Family](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/family/) [Gentle](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/gentle/) [Heaven](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/heaven/) [Kissing](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/kissing/) [Lips](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/lips/) [Lost World](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/lost-world/) [Love](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/love/) [Soul](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/soul/) [Strong enough](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/strong-enough/) [Thoughtful](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/thoughtful/) [World](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/world/) ## Related quotes > [If you can only be tall because someone else is on their knees, then you have a serious problem. 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