--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: what love looks like what does love look…" description: "\"“what love looks like what does love look like the therapist asks one week after the breakup and i’m not sure how to answer her question except for the..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/658/rupi-kaur-909_communication_what-love-looks-like-what-does-love-look_1762828.jpg" --- # what love looks like what does love look like the… ![“what love looks like what does love look like the therapist asks one week after the breakup and i’m not sure how to answer her question except for the fact that i thought love looked so much like you that’s when it hit me and i realized how naive i had been to place an idea so beautiful on the…” quote by Rupi Kaur](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/658/rupi-kaur-909_communication_what-love-looks-like-what-does-love-look_1762828.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/658/rupi-kaur-909_communication_what-love-looks-like-what-does-love-look_1762828.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/658/rupi-kaur-909_communication_what-love-looks-like-what-does-love-look_1762828.jpg) > ““what love looks like what does love look like the therapist asks one week after the breakup and i’m not sure how to answer her question except for the fact that i thought love looked so much like you that’s when it hit me and i realized how naive i had been to place an idea so beautiful on the image of a person as if anybody on this entire earth could encompass all love represented as if this emotion seven billion people tremble for would look like a five foot eleven medium-sized brown-skinned guy who likes eating frozen pizza for breakfast what does love look like the therapist asks again this time interrupting my thoughts midsentence and at this point i’m about to get up and walk right out the door except i paid too much money for this hour so instead i take a piercing look at her the way you look at someone when you’re about to hand it to them lips pursed tightly preparing to launch into conversation eyes digging deeply into theirs searching for all the weak spots they have hidden somewhere hair being tucked behind the ears as if you have to physically prepare for a conversation on the philosophies or rather disappointments of what love looks like well i tell her i don’t think love is him anymore if love was him he would be here wouldn’t he if he was the one for me wouldn’t he be the one sitting across from me if love was him it would have been simple i don’t think love is him anymore i repeat i think love never was i think i just wanted something was ready to give myself to something i believed was bigger than myself and when i saw someone who probably fit the part i made it very much my intention to make him my counterpart and i lost myself to him he took and he took wrapped me in the word special until i was so convinced he had eyes only to see me hands only to feel me a body only to be with me oh how he emptied me how does that make you feel interrupts the therapist well i said it kind of makes me feel like shit maybe we’re looking at it wrong we think it’s something to search for out there something meant to crash into us on our way out of an elevator or slip into our chair at a cafe somewhere appear at the end of an aisle at the bookstore looking the right amount of sexy and intellectual but i think love starts here everything else is just desire and projection of all our wants needs and fantasies but those externalities could never work out if we didn’t turn inward and learn how to love ourselves in order to love other people love does not look like a person love is our actions love is giving all we can even if it’s just the bigger slice of cake love is understanding we have the power to hurt one another but we are going to do everything in our power to make sure we don’t love is figuring out all the kind sweetness we deserve and when someone shows up saying they will provide it as you do but their actions seem to break you rather than build you love is knowing who to choose”” [Rupi Kaur](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/rupi-kaur/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The speaker reflects on love’s idealization, realizing love is not a person but a broader, shared human experience, and confronts personal disillusionment with romantic expectations. **In simple terms:** Love is more than a single person; it’s a universal feeling. Key Takeaway Recognize love beyond idealized partners. Themes identity illusion self-discovery relationships Mood reflective melancholic introspective Type poetic personal philosophical When to use this quote - Therapy session - breakup reflection - personal journaling - relationship counseling Key Concepts Romantic idealization self-identity human connection Questions to Reflect On - How do you differentiate love for a person from love as a feeling? - What expectations shape your view of love? 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time interrupting my thoughts midsentence and at this point i’m about to get up and walk right out the door except i paid too much money for this hour so instead i take a piercing look at her the way you look at someone when you’re about to hand it to them lips pursed tightly preparing to launch into conversation eyes digging deeply into theirs searching for all the weak spots they have hidden somewhere hair being tucked behind the ears as if you have to physically prepare for a conversation on the philosophies or rather disappointments of what love looks like well i tell her i don’t think love is him anymore if love was him he would be here wouldn’t he if he was the one for me wouldn’t he be the one sitting across from me if love was him it would have been simple i don’t think love is him anymore i repeat i think love never was i think i just wanted something was ready to give myself to something i believed was bigger than myself and when i saw someone who probably fit the part i made it very much my intention to make him my counterpart and i lost myself to him he took and he took wrapped me in the word special until i was so convinced he had eyes only to see me hands only to feel me a body only to be with me oh how he emptied me how does that make you feel interrupts the therapist well i said it kind of makes me feel like shit maybe we’re looking at it wrong we think it’s something to search for out there something meant to crash into us on our way out of an elevator or slip into our chair at a cafe somewhere appear at the end of an aisle at the bookstore looking the right amount of sexy and intellectual but i think love starts here everything else is just desire and projection of all our wants needs and fantasies but those externalities could never work out if we didn’t turn inward and learn how to love ourselves in order to love other people love does not look like a person love is our actions love is giving all we can even if it’s just the bigger slice of cake love is understanding we have the power to hurt one another but we are going to do everything in our power to make sure we don’t love is figuring out all the kind sweetness we deserve and when someone shows up saying they will provide it as you do but their actions seem to break you rather than build you love is knowing who to choose”", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Rupi Kaur" }, "isPartOf": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#website" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/rupi-kaur/what-love-looks-like-what-does-love-look-like-the-therapist-asks-one/", "about": { "@type": "Thing", "name": "Communication" }, "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/rupi-kaur/what-love-looks-like-what-does-love-look-like-the-therapist-asks-one/#quotation", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/658/rupi-kaur-909_communication_what-love-looks-like-what-does-love-look_1762828.jpg", "contentUrl": 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