--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Surrendering that pain to stone had…" description: "\"“Surrendering that pain to stone had deadened me in a way that was a relief, but there was a darker side to that forgetting. I’ve seen folk who numbed ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/deb/robin-hobb-489_darker-side_surrendering-that-pain-to-stone-had-dead_2952014.jpg" --- # Surrendering that pain to stone had deadened me in a way… ![“Surrendering that pain to stone had deadened me in a way that was a relief, but there was a darker side to that forgetting. I’ve seen folk who numbed their pain with strong drink or Smoke or other herbs and always the loss of their pain made them less connected. Less human. And so it was with me…” quote by Robin Hobb](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/deb/robin-hobb-489_darker-side_surrendering-that-pain-to-stone-had-dead_2952014.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/deb/robin-hobb-489_darker-side_surrendering-that-pain-to-stone-had-dead_2952014.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/deb/robin-hobb-489_darker-side_surrendering-that-pain-to-stone-had-dead_2952014.jpg) > ““Surrendering that pain to stone had deadened me in a way that was a relief, but there was a darker side to that forgetting. I’ve seen folk who numbed their pain with strong drink or Smoke or other herbs and always the loss of their pain made them less connected. Less human. And so it was with me. Every”” [Robin Hobb](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robin-hobb/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Numbing pain with substances offers temporary relief but also dulls humanity, making one less connected to self and others. **In simple terms:** Escaping pain can make you less human. Key Takeaway Seek healthy ways to process pain. Themes pain addiction humanity self‑awareness relief Mood reflective somber hopeful Type philosophical inspirational When to use this quote - therapy - journaling - support groups - creative expression Key Concepts psychology mindfulness emotional health spirituality Questions to Reflect On - What healthier coping mechanisms could replace numbing habits? - How does feeling pain connect you to others? 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