--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Ich war eigentlich in meine Liebe damals…" description: "\"“Ich war eigentlich in meine Liebe damals verliebt, in meinen veränderten Zustand, weniger in die Frau, die dazu gehörte.”\" — Robert Musil" image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ace/robert-musil-2009_first-love_ich-war-eigentlich-in-meine-liebe-damals_3192400.jpg" --- # Ich war eigentlich in meine Liebe damals verliebt, in… ![“Ich war eigentlich in meine Liebe damals verliebt, in meinen veränderten Zustand, weniger in die Frau, die dazu gehörte.” quote by Robert Musil](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ace/robert-musil-2009_first-love_ich-war-eigentlich-in-meine-liebe-damals_3192400.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ace/robert-musil-2009_first-love_ich-war-eigentlich-in-meine-liebe-damals_3192400.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ace/robert-musil-2009_first-love_ich-war-eigentlich-in-meine-liebe-damals_3192400.jpg) > ““Ich war eigentlich in meine Liebe damals verliebt, in meinen veränderten Zustand, weniger in die Frau, die dazu gehörte.”” [Robert Musil](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robert-musil/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. 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