--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Really, it's my fault. It was there. A…" description: "\"Really, it's my fault. It was there. A hundred times there. How often did I see it? I knew. It kept happening. Over and over, you'd say you were throug..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/afc/richelle-mead-46_believe_really-it-s-my-fault-it-was-there-a-hund_2055365.jpg" --- # Really, it's my fault. It was there. A hundred times… ![“Really, it's my fault. It was there. A hundred times there. How often did I see it? I knew. It kept happening. Over and over, you'd say you were through with him...and over and over, I'd believe it...no matter what my eyes showed me. No matter what my heart told me. My. Fault.” quote by Richelle Mead](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/afc/richelle-mead-46_believe_really-it-s-my-fault-it-was-there-a-hund_2055365.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/afc/richelle-mead-46_believe_really-it-s-my-fault-it-was-there-a-hund_2055365.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/afc/richelle-mead-46_believe_really-it-s-my-fault-it-was-there-a-hund_2055365.jpg) > “Really, it's my fault. It was there. A hundred times there. How often did I see it? I knew. It kept happening. Over and over, you'd say you were through with him...and over and over, I'd believe it...no matter what my eyes showed me. No matter what my heart told me. My. Fault.” [Richelle Mead](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/richelle-mead/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. A person blames themselves for recurring harmful patterns despite evidence. **In simple terms:** Self‑blame persists even when patterns repeat. Key Takeaway Recognize external factors influencing behavior. Themes psychology self‑blame recurrence Mood reflective empathetic Type literary psychological When to use this quote - therapy - self‑reflection - relationship counseling Key Concepts cognitive bias habit loops personal responsibility Questions to Reflect On - What evidence challenges the self‑blame narrative? - How can one break the cycle of repeated mistakes? 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