--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: So somebody comes along and gets to me…" description: "\"So somebody comes along and gets to me. They get me angry or uptight or they awaken some desire in me, wow am I delighted. They got me. And that’s my w..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/970/ram-dass-784_angry_so-somebody-comes-along-and-gets-to-me-t_2354968.png" --- # So somebody comes along and gets to me. They get me angry… ![“So somebody comes along and gets to me. They get me angry or uptight or they awaken some desire in me, wow am I delighted. They got me. And that’s my work on myself. If I am angry with you because your behavior doesn’t fill my model of how you should be, that’s my problem for having models. No…” quote by Ram Dass](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/970/ram-dass-784_angry_so-somebody-comes-along-and-gets-to-me-t_2354968.png) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/970/ram-dass-784_angry_so-somebody-comes-along-and-gets-to-me-t_2354968.png) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/970/ram-dass-784_angry_so-somebody-comes-along-and-gets-to-me-t_2354968.png) > “So somebody comes along and gets to me. They get me angry or uptight or they awaken some desire in me, wow am I delighted. They got me. And that’s my work on myself. If I am angry with you because your behavior doesn’t fill my model of how you should be, that’s my problem for having models. No expectations, no upset. If you are a liar and a cheat, that’s your Karma. If I’m cheated, that’s my work on myself.” [Ram Dass](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ram-dass/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Personal responsibility means recognizing that emotional reactions stem from our own expectations, not others' actions. **In simple terms:** Your feelings are your own. Key Takeaway Own your reactions, not others. Themes self-awareness responsibility emotional intelligence Mood reflective calm Type philosophical inspirational When to use this quote - relationships - conflict - personal growth - self-reflection Key Concepts mindfulness ego karma Questions to Reflect On - How can you notice when expectations trigger anger? - What practices help you release judgment? 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