--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: In love, for example - the so-called love…" description: "\"In love, for example - the so-called love - we are 'related.' We appear to be related. We create the fallacy of a relationship, but in fact we are just..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/84b/rajneesh-54_communion_in-love-for-example-the-so-called-love-w_1513593.jpg" --- # In love, for example - the so-called love - we are… ![“In love, for example - the so-called love - we are 'related.' We appear to be related. We create the fallacy of a relationship, but in fact we are just deceiving ourselves. The two will remain two. Howsoever near, the two will remain two. Even in sexual communion they will be two. This two-ness…” quote by Rajneesh](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/84b/rajneesh-54_communion_in-love-for-example-the-so-called-love-w_1513593.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/84b/rajneesh-54_communion_in-love-for-example-the-so-called-love-w_1513593.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/84b/rajneesh-54_communion_in-love-for-example-the-so-called-love-w_1513593.jpg) > “In love, for example - the so-called love - we are 'related.' We appear to be related. We create the fallacy of a relationship, but in fact we are just deceiving ourselves. The two will remain two. Howsoever near, the two will remain two. Even in sexual communion they will be two. This two-ness, this duality will never last. So a relationship is only creating a fallacious oneness. It is not there. Oneness can never exist between two selves. Oneness can only exist between two no-selves.” [Rajneesh](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/rajneesh/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The passage argues that true oneness cannot exist between two separate selves; any perceived relationship is an illusion, and genuine unity is only possible beyond personal identity. **In simple terms:** Relationships are illusory; true unity lies beyond self. Key Takeaway Recognize the limits of personal connections. Themes philosophy spirituality identity duality relationships Mood contemplative skeptical philosophical Type theoretical spiritual When to use this quote - meditation practice - therapy sessions - spiritual retreats - philosophical discussions - relationship counseling Key Concepts non-dualism illusion self-transcendence interpersonal dynamics Questions to Reflect On - Can true connection exist without personal identity? - How does this perspective affect empathy? 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