--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I'd say that it's often true that people…" description: "\"I'd say that it's often true that people are attracted to each other immediately and everything lines up, but it's just as true for those relationships..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/939/pepper-schwartz-47885_attracted_i-d-say-that-it-s-often-true-that-people_2898782.png" --- # I'd say that it's often true that people are attracted to… ![“I'd say that it's often true that people are attracted to each other immediately and everything lines up, but it's just as true for those relationships to end up a disaster. But people don't think of that as false love-at-first-sight. They highlight the examples that worked rather than the ones…” quote by Pepper Schwartz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/939/pepper-schwartz-47885_attracted_i-d-say-that-it-s-often-true-that-people_2898782.png) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/939/pepper-schwartz-47885_attracted_i-d-say-that-it-s-often-true-that-people_2898782.png) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/939/pepper-schwartz-47885_attracted_i-d-say-that-it-s-often-true-that-people_2898782.png) > “I'd say that it's often true that people are attracted to each other immediately and everything lines up, but it's just as true for those relationships to end up a disaster. But people don't think of that as false love-at-first-sight. They highlight the examples that worked rather than the ones that failed.” [Pepper Schwartz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pepper-schwartz/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. People often romanticize instant attraction, ignoring that many such relationships end poorly, highlighting a bias toward success stories. **In simple terms:** Instant attraction can be misleading; many such relationships fail. Key Takeaway Recognize the risk of idealizing love at first sight. Themes relationships psychology bias romanticism Mood cautious reflective Type analytical advisory When to use this quote - dating - friendship - marriage counseling - online dating Key Concepts cognitive bias relationship dynamics Questions to Reflect On - How can you balance optimism and realism in new relationships? - What signs indicate a healthy versus a potentially disastrous connection? 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Grant](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/adam-m-grant/) ## More by Pepper Schwartz > [Parents aren't sex education experts just because they are parents.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pepper-schwartz/parents-aren-t-sex-education-experts-just-because-they-are-parents/) [Pepper Schwartz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pepper-schwartz/) > [Not only is it not remarkable to be a single woman, there's no stigma attached. You see more and more women choosing to be…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pepper-schwartz/not-only-is-it-not-remarkable-to-be-a-single-woman-there-s-no-stigma/) [Pepper Schwartz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pepper-schwartz/) > [Women may give lip service to wanting husbands who take on an equal role in raising children, but many will pull rank when an…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pepper-schwartz/women-may-give-lip-service-to-wanting-husbands-who-take-on-an-equal/) [Pepper Schwartz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pepper-schwartz/) > [In the best of all possible worlds, February 14 is a pleasant and sentimental opportunity to lavish your partner with attention or move your…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pepper-schwartz/in-the-best-of-all-possible-worlds-february-14-is-a-pleasant-and/) [Pepper Schwartz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pepper-schwartz/) > [Our sexual self is a complex combination of our social, cultural, and biological inheritance.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pepper-schwartz/our-sexual-self-is-a-complex-combination-of-our-social-cultural-and/) [Pepper Schwartz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pepper-schwartz/) > [Holidays in general breed unrealistic expectations. 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Being attracted to deVries was like a moth saying, "Hey, let's go check out that awesome bonfire".”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/cherise-sinclair/talk-about-insanity-being-attracted-to-devries-was-like-a-moth-saying/) [cherise sinclair](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/cherise-sinclair/) > [I still get attracted to people but having a relationship isn't fair on the other person.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anne-hegerty/i-still-get-attracted-to-people-but-having-a-relationship-isn-t-fair/) [Anne Hegerty](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anne-hegerty/) > [I have always been attracted to gay guys so I always thought I am gay man.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/trisha-paytas/i-have-always-been-attracted-to-gay-guys-so-i-always-thought-i-am-gay/) [Trisha Paytas](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/trisha-paytas/) > [I'm attracted to playing characters that have flaws.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-shahi/i-m-attracted-to-playing-characters-that-have-flaws/) [Sarah Shahi](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-shahi/) > [I think part of the reason I'm attracted to Foster is because he's such a mess. 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I'm interested in the human condition and what makes people tick. I'm interested in…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/johnny-depp/i-m-attracted-to-the-extreme-light-and-the-extreme-dark-i-m/) [Johnny Depp](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/johnny-depp/) > [“Even though she would dream of love, respect, and unfettered romance... it was a cyclical dilemma in her life that she seemed to be…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/steve-maraboli/even-though-she-would-dream-of-love-respect-and-unfettered-romance-it/) [Steve Maraboli](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/steve-maraboli/) > [It's not difficult to be attracted to Rupert Penry-Jones.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/genevieve-o-reilly/it-s-not-difficult-to-be-attracted-to-rupert-penry-jones/) [Genevieve O'Reilly](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/genevieve-o-reilly/) > [I've always been attracted to characters that were interesting to me, and different.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/milla-jovovich/i-ve-always-been-attracted-to-characters-that-were-interesting-to-me/) [Milla Jovovich](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/milla-jovovich/) [Browse all 901 Attracted quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/attracted/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "I'd say that it's often true that people are attracted to each other immediately and everything lines up, but it's just as true for those relationships to end up a disaster. 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