--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Well, it starts with being willing to…" description: "\"Well, it starts with being willing to feel what we are going through. It starts with being willing to have a compassionate relationship with the parts ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f04/pema-ch-dr-n-327_acknowledge_well-it-starts-with-being-willing-to-fee_1514851.jpg" --- # Well, it starts with being willing to feel what we are… ![“Well, it starts with being willing to feel what we are going through. It starts with being willing to have a compassionate relationship with the parts of ourselves that we feel are not worthy of existing on the planet. If we are willing through meditation to be mindful not only of what feels…” quote by Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f04/pema-ch-dr-n-327_acknowledge_well-it-starts-with-being-willing-to-fee_1514851.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f04/pema-ch-dr-n-327_acknowledge_well-it-starts-with-being-willing-to-fee_1514851.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f04/pema-ch-dr-n-327_acknowledge_well-it-starts-with-being-willing-to-fee_1514851.jpg) > “Well, it starts with being willing to feel what we are going through. It starts with being willing to have a compassionate relationship with the parts of ourselves that we feel are not worthy of existing on the planet. If we are willing through meditation to be mindful not only of what feels comfortable, but also of what pain feels like, if we even aspire to stay awake and open to what we're feeling, to recognize and acknowledge it as best we can in each moment, then something begins to change.” [Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Mindful acceptance of all feelings, even painful ones, opens the way for inner change. **In simple terms:** Accept all emotions to transform. Key Takeaway Sit with discomfort compassionately. Themes mindfulness compassion self‑acceptance Mood reflective hopeful Type spiritual inspirational When to use this quote - meditation sessions - therapy - stressful events - personal growth Key Concepts psychology spiritual practice Questions to Reflect On - What emotions are you avoiding? - How can compassion ease suffering? 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